Hey everyone. I’m new to this page and I just want to say how relieved I am that a forum like this exists! I have made the mistake of talking to non-stepparents or to women who do have stepchildren (or “bonus kids” as they call them) and think that you MUST love someone else’s child exactly as much as you love your own and if you don’t, you’re a horrible person and  your spouse should leave you. Or women who have genuine friendships with the BM. That’s amazing, but unfortunately, it’s not my case.