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Submitted by tankh21 on Mon, 09/03/2018 - 4:23pm

So this weekend we decided to go camping at the beach.  After all of the crap that happened when MIL and her BF came I was hoping that we could relax and just enjoy ourselves but boy was I wrong.  DH wanted to spend time with the skids ok that was fine but spend no time with me at all.  I feel like it didn't even matter that I was there.  I mean don't get me wrong I want DH to spend time with the skids but he could've spend a little bit of time with me as well.  I don't think that is too much to ask for!?  Any way, so on Saturday I was spending time with my SM and DH calls me and tells me that YSS is sick and he is dropping him off with me.  I told him that we were not at the trailer and that even if I was there he was not dropping off his kid for me to watch him.  He blew his top and told me that he is tired of me not being there for him and that he is never going to ask me for anything again.  He said that he will solve his own problems from now on.  He also used the line that I don't like his kids again!  Here is the kicker though YSS wasn't even sick he just wanted to come back to the trailer and be in the AC!!  I asked DH if he wanted a divorce and he told me that was for me to decide.  I was just in shock so I said nothing to him about any of this.  I ignored him and the skids the rest of the time I was there and even left early this morning and headed home. 

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Submitted by Survivingstephell on Mon, 09/03/2018 - 6:29pm

So lets see, you carry the skids on your insurance, you have to put up with them stealing food off your plate and MIL and BM teaming up to mess with you, DH and MIL think that your are to just suppos to automatically fall in line and tolerate anything and everything toxic these people dish out and DH threatens divorce like you'd lose in the deal??? (that's just the past few blogs I found)   

You'd win hands down as he would be stuck with this cess filled gene pool.   Common sense says to ignore the toddler tantrum.  Mantrums need a different tactic, like giving them what they want.  

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Submitted by ndc on Mon, 09/03/2018 - 7:15pm

Your husband sounds like a total ass.  I know we only hear the bad stuff and the venting, but honestly, I couldn't live with being treated the way he treats you in addition to putting up with his kids and his mother and his ex-wife.  (((Hugs))) to you.

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Submitted by ESMOD on Tue, 09/04/2018 - 7:57am

Do you think your DH spent all that time with them because there was no one else there that would supervise them?  I know it's a bit of a chicken and egg issue because since they are unruly.. it's hard to ask someone to watch out for them.  But, I guess from his perspective, if you aren't able to partner with him (and for him that means you help him with his kids from time to time.. like when he son has gotten overheated outside and needs a break)  But since he has given you no power over over his kids and their behavior.. I think that means you shouldn't be tasked with watching them much either. 

I don't know.. while I'm sure that a lot of your complaints are valid.. I think that between the two of you.. this situation is becoming untenable.  His kids aren't going anywhere... and he obviously expects you "as the woman" to help in child care.  You can't/won't deal with his kids.  and yes "you hate his kids"  you really do, there is no way anyone who reads your posts could get any other read.. so of course your DH is right there.. but really part of the reason you don't like them is that he is a poor parent.  So, in the end, is this really the person you want to yoke up with?  maybe not.  Maybe cutting the ties and moving forward with lessons learned is the right thing to do.