Trying to sit back and not get involved....
This weekend was eventful. I sat back and let DH handle the skids. He tried to get me involved in their shenanigans however I told him that it was his visitation with his kids so he can deal with it. I just sat back and watched. Then SS lost his glasses in the ocean. BM was blowing up DH's phone yesterday telling him that he had to buy SS new glasses. So DH asked her to send him the prescription of SS's glasses and he would gladly buy SS new glasses. BM sent him the information of the optometrist so he is going to call today to get the prescription and buy SS new glasses online. I can see it now though. BM will try to pull some crap because SS didn't get to pick out the glasses or she will say that DH has to spend a certain amount of money on them. Does BM have the right to tell DH where to buy SS a pair of glasses and how much he has to spend on them?
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No the BM does not have the
No the BM does not have the right to tell your H where to purchase glasses. The bottom line is that SS needs them and as long as H has the prescription all is right with the world. There is no set price or anything of the sort. Whatever your H chooses is what SS will wear. Do not leave any room for options and BM does not run what your H buys or spends on his own child.
Although all h@ll broke loose this weekend you still have to allow H to handle/parent his children. It will get worse before it gets better but you will see a light at the end of the tunnel eventually.
Who paid for the glasses in
Who paid for the glasses in the first place? Was it a spilt pay item?
My personal two cents feels the same type/quality should be repurchased to replace the lost ones. However, if the glasses are originally a spilt cost, they should still be a spilt cost now. Accidents happen. The kid could have lost the glasses at anytime or any place had he been with BM, same as with Dad.
I would look into proper eye glass protection when Dad orders the new ones. Of course the kid wants to have fun and swim and if the glasses are not appropriately secured he will just lose or break new ones too.
Does either parent carry eye wear insurance? If so, that should be used first regardless of which or how the parents pay for the remaining cost.
BM paid of the glasses in the
BM paid of the glasses in the first place. Her DH carries vision insurance however she refuses to give DH the insurance information.
You let DH handle the kids
kids wear glasses all day long, they have to be happy with them, you can’t have other kids make fun of him because of bad looking glasses. It’s your husband fault
That doesn't mean that they
That doesn't mean that they have to be the same brand or anything.... there are usually a pretty good selection of reasonably priced frames out there.... they could also forego some of the pricey lens coatings etc... maybe not get the thinnest lenses that cost a lot more etc... Unfortunately, the kid may have to accept a lesser substitute since he wasn't careful with his other ones. It's a lesson learned that you will not be provided brand new replacements of everything you misplace or damage through carelessness.
I'm not advocating intentionally buying him ugly ones... but not necessary to replace them with a high end brand.
yeah ok and which one of my
yeah ok Harry and which one of my bills would you like to pay so the skid can have expensive glasses because my DH doesn't have a job right now. The kid can be happy with a decent pair of glasses that aren't too expensive.
Listen as a BM myself, if I
Listen as a BM myself, if I was that concerned with what glasses my child was going to get to replace a lost pair, I would be ordering them myself. If she is demanding that your DH order them, then your SS gets what he gets and she doesn't throw a fit. Well I should rephrase that to she "shouldn't" throw a fit... she'll probably throw a fit regardless.