My first time on this site, I can't believe that other sm have the same problems I do,I thought it was just me.Both my sd are in their 20s and they do not live with us. thank goodness! I really do not think my marriage would survive. THey both have never really welcomed me into their dads life, the day we got married the youngest sd asked if i was going to change my last name, I told her yes...that should have been a clue for me there! It has gone down hill from there.