Communication
Does anyone else just get ill inside when they know DH & BM are negotiating something. I do, and I swear my Dh ( dumba$$ husband) can not send her a response back that isn't argument evoking. He has insighted two incidents with either BM or BM related with his family that I ended up having to p/u the pieces after since the first week of June. She is very selfish when it come to thinking she should get every minuet of the kids time, but he is just such a uncouth doofus at times my head spins.
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The worst is when they get
The worst is when they get into it face to face in front of you…
I have this happen at least once a week in our situation (we see BM just about every day!). And the crappy thing is I’m usually put in the middle with both of them looking to me with this comically funny look of… “Well?!? What do YOU think?”
As long as it isn’t life threatening I try to back out of the room slowly mumbling something about checking on the cat. If they have something to “negotiate” (LOVE that term!!!) between the two of them, I say leave them to it and don’t stress…
(easier said than done, I know from experience)
We see BM daily too, I think
We see BM daily too, I think that is worse. I have told the kids that when the two of them get into it infront of them they need to speak up, tell them "they don't appreciate the arguing & if it continues they will need to leave the room, car whatever untill the two of them are done with it ." The kids & I absolutely hate it. BM feels she is in charge of everything & DH gets angry & yells & says stupid things rather than playing the game.
She just zinged him right back & he admitted to me that I called it. Why didn't I just go to a freaking sperm bank to get BS3!!!!!
OMG he just BCC'd me on an
OMG he just BCC'd me on an email that he was responding to, to BM & he actually apologized for his last email to her. There are days where I feel like I am raising a 36 year old as well as a 3 year old.
*laughs* Yeah… sometimes it’s
*laughs*
Yeah… sometimes it’s just better to kick back with some popcorn and a martini and be entertained by the whole “Step Family” show… if only it had a pause and rewind, right?
I’m with you on not letting the kids bare witness to their antics… I’ve gotten pretty good myself at being the barrier. Again… the cat comes in handy as a good distraction!
I actually get excited when
I actually get excited when my wife is interfacing with the SpermIdiot or the SpermClan.
Kicking their ass every chance we get is a great joy for me and though my wife longs for recognition from them of her great parenting, life accomplishments as well as a public admission of their status as toothless morons she too has come to love baring their ass agressively, publically and often.
They usually will start being reasonable a few months before they want something. Right before they come around to attempting to manipulate my wife and the Court Order they will start acting as if they have a viable brain cell between the lot of them.
Stuff like:
SpermClan: "We never get him for the holidays (Christmas)"
Wife/Rags: "You get half of the holiday season. The Judgement gives you either the day school gets out until Dec 24th or Dec 26th until the day before school starts. It is very clear that Dec 25th is always mine".
SpermClan: "But we never get him on the 25th"
Wife/Rags: "As I just said the judgement is very clear on that and besides, you don't celebrate Christmas so why are you even bothering to ask for it?"
SpermClan: "Um, errr, duhhh, YOU ARE SO MEAN AND ALWAYS HAVE TO HAVE IT YOUR WAY!!!!!"
Their particular Christian cult does not recognize Christmas. Not that I have a problem with Christianity in general. I am a Christian myself. However, they are just some freaky poople.
They get mad when we refer them back to the Custody/Visitation/Support judgement. We really are not trying to be mean but they have trained us over the years to stick diligently to the judgement. When ever we have been "nice" and deviated from the judgement they keep pushing and pushing and pushing until we have to roll the CO up and beat the snot out of them with it. So now we start any request by them with rolling up the judgement and smaking the shit out of them with it.
Best regards.
"When ever we have been
"When ever we have been "nice" and deviated from the judgement they keep pushing and pushing and pushing until we have to roll the CO up and beat the snot out of them with it. So now we start any request by them with rolling up the judgement and smaking the shit out of them with it."
ROFLMAO!!!! That was great!