It's funny, but not funny really.....
I nearly blogged early last week, as I was wondering how long it would be before DH brought up the Summer trip he mentioned last year. I have blogged about it previously, but as I am disengaged I had no reason to bring it up, as I assumed that DH had listened to me before.
To recap, we live in a different country to ADULT skids, DH wants to be there on sd's University Graduation Day, I AM happy for him to go, but I'm not feeling that I wish and want to go, for several reasons...
I'm disengaged from sd and the younger skid
I planned the a** out of our last trip back last year and even DH said it was a hellish week, not just the skids, but his family too, etc
This will be another week's holiday gone, and even DH has said, well, these are NOT holidays anyway, well, WTH are they ???
It is VERY EXPENSIVE, the dates he is looking at, or will be looking at are peak Summer ones, flights alone are 1500 to 2000K EACH, plus add on car hire, Hotels, etc, etc, this is a lot of money!! I didn't know WE had 6K to spare to spend on a day maybe two with an indifferent skid, who he will probably only get to see for two hours on the actual day of the Ceremony !! :O
Throughout our heated conversation, I felt I was banging my head on a wall, DH is back to thinking I will be going with him !!! That he REALLY wants me by his side, to feel my love and support etc etc, and how sad he would feel without me !!! I reasoned that WE didn't enjoy the last little trip, and he told me yes, but this time would be different..... Yeah RIGHT !! He said he is planning to only visit sd and not the extended crazy family, his parents, etc, etc ?? Hmmmm, okayyyy.....
I feel I am being pushed emotionally and that this is going to be like a deal breaker, DH has offered to set dates and pay deposits on the other Holiday we didn't do last year, though I feel it's like a bribe now.....
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Just let him go by
Just let him go by himself...Tell him you are not putting yourself through it. He can have a relationship with them, but you are not...Be forceful and say no...
Quick update to what has
Quick update to what has happened since DH brought up sd's Graduation......nothing has been done...yet....
DH did say to me at the time and I forgot to say, that he would have to contact sd to ' find ' out about when it was, etc, etc, and this was like nearly two weeks ago now ( and everyone knows that the only thing that happens if you don't book up flights, Hotels, etc, is that it just gets more expensive, and all accomodation options near the venue will be gone quickly, it's in the middle of nowhere... )
He has done nothing as far as I know, it took me about seven clicks on a mouse to find all the info about it, but I'm not telling him that. He wants me to jump in and organise it all for him, this isn't unusual, I am a born organiser, and expert holiday planner, and it is normal for me to do it for us !!!
I'm not going to, just want to see how long it takes him to ask me to help.....