As most of you know my ex is mentally ill and was abusive to me. It is kind of interesting because I think he has held it together these days in front of his GF. As far as I am concerned that is great because the GF appears to be really nice and BS likes her a lot. My former steps say she is nice, but like all of us are afraid he won't be able to keep it up and will treat her the way he did me and ex-wife#1.

BS was talking about his birthday this year, planning what he wants and what kids.... it is 3 months away mind you. He stoppped and hestitated. I assumed it is because he wants to invite his dad. Our decree says birthdays are shared...very vague. Last year I let him take him the night before on my weekend to stay overnight and then he returned him during the day. I was having his kid party that day. Because he is so hostile and mean to me we rarely speak having him to my home for anything is not an option. Well turns out what was on his mind is it is the GF's birthday this Sunday and he wants me to take him to buy her a gift. I am very proud of this kid.He is a giver. So evil BM that told him I would take him to Target and he can get her something. Also, I told him he could call his dad on Sunday so he can talk to her and wish her happy birthday. After being on here for years I am very proud that BS is thoughtful and is not a sh$thead like some of these COD.