So, I am making the attempt one more time to interact with my ex husband in a positive manner for BS. I signed him up for little league ( we both agreed to it) I paid for it ( he quit paying his CS at that time so yes I paid for it) and then he volunteered to be an assistant coach... I cringed because he never follows through with anything.

We agreed to be cordial to each other after barely speaking for 3 years. ( he has been abusive to me in the past and as recently as March went nuts on me in front of his new wife and my husband). His new wife is amazing I really like her and hope he keeps his shit together. He has been all buddy buddy to my husband making a great show to others. We take it at face value and I have sucked up crap once again as he tries to push me around and tell me how to do things during my time. I just ignore him. He has showed up for about a 3rd of the games/practices and told the coach that my husband who is present at everything can fill in for him... which he is more than happy to do because he loves BS.

Sooo... BS saw this adorable canvas picture of a dog that looks like step mom's furbaby and he had me buy it. I wrapped it up beautifully and he gave it to her last Sunday. She has no children and her mom died two years ago so I know that day must be hard. She even told me at baseball how she tried to have babies and how it just didn't happen. Today my ex sends me an email because he and head coach called a 1 hr practice this saturday ( my saturday) and he wanted to take BS himself not me bring him... we had plans but I am willing to change them because he is part of a team and needs to learn that I feel. ( oh, he even tried to tell me he would take BS to the practices and I could stay home, but I could come to the games ... he has no visitation during the week and again I padi for it WTF)

Here is part of what he sent me:

On the topic of trust and disciplining our son, you do realize that there are things he talks with Step mom about that he won’t tell you or I, right? I’m sure this is the same with Step dad too. Those things that are said between BS and his step-parents stay between him and his step-parents. Stepmom won’t tell me the content of their conversation unless he’s confiding something in her that could or has hurt him, mentally, physically, sexually, etc. It’s a level of trust between BS and Stepmom/Stepdad that I think is very important for us not to interfere with. On that topic, I think it’s also wise for the relationships between Stepmom/Stepdad and BS remain as casual as it’s been. In other words, if there’s any disciplinary issues or punishments that need to be handed down, that should only come from you or I. BS puts a lot of trust into the adult non-parental relationships he has and I don’t want to ruin it. He has a pretty good stepmom and stepdad and my hope is to keep things relaxed between BS and them.

One last thing – On Sunday, BS gave Stepmom that Chihuahua painting and you made a reference to Mother’s Day. While I’m sure Stepmom appreciated it, she knows her boundaries and doesn’t want to be his mother unless, God forbid, something happens and she HAS to step into that role. Let’s keep Mother’s and Father’s Days for his actual Mom and Dad. I guess I’m being selfish with this, but hey, he’s our son. We do all the hard work and we’re the only ones he calls Mom and Dad, so I think only you and I should enjoy the spoils. Are you OK with this?

Insecure much. I ignored this whole diatribe and addressed the rest. I really wish he would just say thank you and worry about himself.