I am mom of 2 boys and a SM to one boy. We are planning a wedding for this August and my SS (with support from his counselor)wants us to put it off until he is 18. He is 14 now and they claim he needs his dad to put him as #1 priority in his life, the BM as #2 and I could be #3. This boy has come in and out of our lives and played our hearts like a harp. I am very exhausted and not wanting to put our wedding off any longer as we have waiting for more than 3 years as it is for things to get better between him and his dad.