DO I take SD or NOT???
Okay guys this seems to be the question of the week for me. Okay my relationship with DH is on very thin water for many reasons,, but to the question
My mother, whom was never there for me as a child and is barely there for my own children has invited me and my daughter to gulf shores. WHen I asked if one of the SD's could come she said no she wanted it to just us. Well I was able to understand that.
Well after talking with friends, some say its wrong and some say I shouldnt feel guilty because the plan is that I go with my two daughters.
My SD does not like my mother just like my daughters do not like my MIL which my MIL in NEVER invites my daughters any where.
MY DH is livid over this becuase I am going then SD should go. HELP ME!! I can take any advise given just give it to me. AND TO be honest I think with my relationship with DH right now I also want to serigate myself from that family and just have some me time with my family.. IS THAT WRONG???
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You need alone time
with your mom & your girls. PERIOD END OF DISCUSSION.
This could be bonding time for him & his daughter.
Does he need a sitter? Is that the problem? Don't cheat yourself & your daughters out of this special time with your mom.
Honestly I think it depends
I think it depends on how well you, your daughters, and your SD get along. If you and your SD get along great and she is like one of your daughters then I would say take her, but if your SD is like most SD's I would leave her at home and not worry about it and do not feel guilty.
If SD doesn't like your mother...
Why the hell would she expect to go? For a free trip? Your mother should not host anyone, bio or step, who doesn't like her.
SD
SD wasn't invited and she needs to stay home.
You don't have to take your
You don't have to take your SD since she was not extended an invitation. If it had been your SD'S GM that had invited her somewhere and did not invite your BD would such a big deal have been made - probably not.
Inside every cynical person, there is a disappointed idealist. - George Carlin
Grandmothers
Let your SD go to her grandmother's without your kids. Let your kids visit their grandmother without SD. Then take some time one weekend, take your DH & all the kids/skids & go somewhere altogether. That way no kid/granparent has to deal with someone they don't like.
Listen
to Cruella. She is exactly right. Do for your girls, they need the relationship with their grandmother nurtured, the steps really don't.