OT - MIL's say the darndest things
I'm making this OT, because it's not a specifically step-related topic.
With the holidays upon us, I'm reminded of all the things I love about DH's family .
My MIL is sometimes a very special person...she says things that make me wonder if she still has all of her mental faculties.
Several weeks ago, I had to drive SS to his football game and asked MIL to join us (to be nice, but also because then she could entertain SSs for a bit). SS's football team is 100% white and the opposing team was about 90% African American. After the game SS says to us, "the other team was calling us the n-word." I kind of ignore him because this kid is a total liar and always looking to say things to get attention. MIL makes some comment about how that's not very nice of the other team to say that. About an hour later on the car ride home, MIL is chatting away to the kids and says, "if the other team wants to call you [n-word, which she says in its full form], you should call them honky because that's what they used to call white people." I sit there aghast and just say to both SSs, "maybe you shouldn't say that." This is the same woman who has told DH on more than one ocassion that I'm not a mom, so I don't know what I'm doing.
A few months ago, we're at MIL's and one of my SSs is wearing a Yoda-themed shirt that says "judge me for my size, do you?" or something like that. MIL asks where he got that and I tell her that DH and I bought it for him when we ran a Disney race. I then say that I thought it would be funny if DH had gotten one for himself because he's so tall. MIL says, "he probably didn't want people to think it was referring to his other size." And yes, she was referring to penis size. I was so flabbergasted that she would say something like that, that I just stammered, "no, I don't think he thought that at all..." Seriously, what mother would make some sexual joke about her child? Of course, when I first met MIL she and SIL engaged in a long conversation about some random guy's butt, so I shouldn't be surprised. I couldn't tell if she was drunk when she made this comment. Sometimes, I think she drinks more than she lets on...
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She made a size reference to
She made a size reference to her son's penis :jawdrop: :sick:
That's just all kinds of nope nope nope. What a rude woman!
Sounds like my (current)
Sounds like my (current) MIL.
Uncouth savage who isn't fit for polite company because some vile or inane brain fart is going to pass from her cranium via her lips and stink out the room!
DH's father passed away
DH's father passed away nearly 20 years ago...I live in the fear of the moment when she decides to tell me some intimate detail about DH's father. I think I would actually die of embarrassment, right on the spot.
The only times my MIL talks about money is when she talks about how DH and I need to be spending more on Skids (e.g. she said they should go to sleep away camp (which costs $800 a kid) and that we need to take them on nicer vacations, because she remembers both fondly from her childhood) or how we need to be spending less money on ourselves (she thought our honeymoon was too expensive and that we should have purchased a less expensive car for ourselves (we did not buy an expensive car, but we didn't buy an old used car, like she suggested).
BloneAmbition OMG her monthly
BloneAmbition OMG her monthly cycle at Thanksgiving that's awful. I am sorry. You must have been horrified.
My dh's mom would tell me stuff about my Dh's dad sex life too. HIS Deviate behavior to put it as sensitively as possibly. Thank goodness I could say STOP talking to me about this and hang up the phone.
My dead MIL was a weirdo to the max. She is the one who would mail us crap of 1/2 used stuff. For Christmas one year I received a 1/2 bottle of used bubble bath with scotch tape wrapped around the lid. She must have managed to make a path thru her hoard and use her stick that grabs stuff.
Anything that came to use after that pile of junk---was tossed in the trash.
sorry---I hijacked this...I will stop.
She was a loony toon. I
She was a loony toon.
I almost cant believe it myself with I think of the junk I have seen. LOL
I have a friend who showed me
I have a friend who showed me pictures of her MIL's house. MIL needed to download some of her pictures on my friend's computer while visiting and accidentally downloaded lots of photos of the inside of her house.
Her house is over 3000 square feet and is full to the brim of stuff...if my friend had sent those pictures off to Hoarders, they would have agreed to feature her on an episode.
She, too, will send "gifts" for the kids that are old used things. My friend throws all of them out.
My cousin's other grandmother used to do the same thing. One year, she sent my cousin a pair of used mittens and one silver fork. Another year, she sent my aunt a t shirt with a picture of one of her cats on it.
MY MIL actually did refer to
MY MIL actually did refer to the size of her sons private parts to ME on a telephone call.
I will never forget it.
'I know the sizes of their P and that is why the women want them". :jawdrop:
My dh's Mom was disgusting, and THAT conversation was the last one I had with her. It was a long time coming trust me.
After years of my dh telling his mom to knock it off HER last words to him were "I will not be subservient to anyone". He never spoke to her again.
She died a few years later...dh did not attended her funeral.
I remember the story she told me during one of her rants.. SHE was at a dinner party. Those poor people where held hostage by her very presence. IF only they knew they would not have agreed to attend.
Anyway, DH's Mom could not keep her mouth shut, she would never allow anyone to get a word in edgewise. I'll be darn if someone told her to be quite for God sake and they called her a complete bore. SHE was highly offended this person had such nerve.
LOL
MyssTique you do NOT have to put up with your dh's mom every again. just letting you know. And you will not go to burn in Hell either.
so sorry your going thru this....remember you don't have to.
Wow! That's completely sick
Wow! That's completely sick and twisted...
Yes struggling mom-- my dh's
Yes struggling mom-- my dh's mothers comments were sick and twisted.
That was just the tip of the iceberg..........
I prayed for her soul when we heard she died. That was the best I could do.
My DH's mother once told his
My DH's mother once told his dad, "A good fart is more satisfying than sex with you". She's a nasty B*tch! She's 80, so she can say whatever she wants, I guess.
Yet she acts all prim and proper to the point where she says I dress my five year old like a slut if her hair hangs in her face. She has a side part, and that's supposedly "precocious"... and has a niece that grew up to be a stripper and swears it's because her parents let her dress cutely, and says that I am doing the same.
Wow! If I was your DH, I
Wow! If I was your DH, I think I'd come up with a bunch of excuses to avoid my mom...or maybe not even excuses after my mom called my 5 year old a slut...
witch hazel...omg for your
witch hazel...omg for your too.
IF IF IF your MIL just began spewing stuff like this out of the blue,, 'A good 'blank' is more satisfying than..." it might be easily said she something else like going on like dementia etc.
BUT if she was always lacking in a social filter...well then she is just a jerk.
I would not allow my daughter around that ever. I am sorry your mil said that about your little girl.
What is WRONG with people? SMH
One of the pictures I have on
One of the pictures I have on fb of Dh and my dad at OUR WEDDING, MIL commented "Yeah, whose your daddy now!"
Um.... :jawdrop:
I spent years excusing my
I spent years excusing my MIL's crappy comments and blamed it on PTSD. I spent years making polite excuses to not bring her to the synagogue on holidays because she says the most outrageous things about religion. One day she will order a mezuzah from Israel and the next day she denies being Jewish. My DH knows better than to bring her around me in any situation ever again because I refuse to filter what I say to her. The last time I saw her was her bday 2 years ago. I planned the party, made sure the kids would be there, arranged thoughtful gifts, made reservations at her favorite restaurant. She, in turn, used SD's gift to mock me for not having a second college degree yet, loudly, in German, judged how the gifts were wrapped and then ordered her food so spicy that it caused her to breathe weird all while making fun of those of us who ordered it mild. I told DH never the eff again would I keep my mouth shut while she makes the rest of us feel bad. Poor SD was almost in tears.
As far as I know, she's never mentioned DH's Wiener schnitzel but she has tried to convince me he likes men.