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So...Ive just found out Im pregnant....and SS17 seems to be rearing is ugly head again....scared...

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So...yes.....OH and I have been trying, really shocked as its only taken 2 months of trying and I have PCO so Im extremely lucky and privileged to be in this position. Early days though.....

Few problems though, and for those who have read my blogs you know why but to re-cap; SD6 originally said she didnt want another sis or bro, OH spoke with her and told her (literally these exact words) that "if you (SD6) dont want to have one then we wont have one"....I lost the plot, he explained that he only said it cos she was ok about it now and that it wouldnt be a problem.....I happen to know otherwise....SD6 told me and my BD6 2 weeks ago that she didnt want a sibling....so when she says to daddy "I dont want one and you said if I didnt want one we wouldnt have one" Im walking from the room.....

And now SS17.....again, my blogs say everything...apparently he is living with BM again now.....and we all know what will happen there...arguments cos SS17 isnt getting his way...BM kicks him out...and where does he go.....Oh yeah, to mug and mugger.......

After everything SS17 has done and put me through, Ive actually asked if Im being to harsh, or if I should give him another chance. Im even wondering if I actually have a choice in the matter, given that its OH son and OH lives with me.....but I cant help wondering that if it was a child of mine that did what SS17 did, that OH would be against it too......But I always come back to NO......on all questions...so it looks like Im in for a rough ride, cos if SS17 needs somewhere to go, OH will want him at ours and to OH I HAVE to accept that cos its his son and its no questions asked.....I wont know if SS17 is moving back in, I get told after the fact, I dont even get told if SS19 or SS17 are sleeping over...again Im supposed to just go along and not say a word? But its my hose too right? So do I have a right to say anything? Do I have the right to say "hold on, we both live here and I wouldnt do anything without talking to you first"......I dont know...I just know that right now I dont need the stress

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step off already's picture

Ss14 three a fit when he found out dh and I were having a baby. Dh and I still talk about having an other one and even though he loves his baby sister very very much he'll still pipe in about how he doesn't want another sibling.

We just tell him that it's not his choice but when he's married, he can certainly help make the decision about how many children him and his wife get to have. Our babies are not his choice. Period.