DH and BM do separate parent teacher conferences and DH's was tonight (BM signed up to go next week which we only know because the schedule is online) and the teacher told DH that SS8 is lying, being rough with his classmates, being disruptive, and generally having a difficult time.

SS8 is a large child. He's tall and sturdy and larger than most of his classmates. 

His teacher suggested SS8 see the school counselor and DH agreed.