Text from BM during my birthday celebration
For my birthday DH, myself and 3 other couples we hang with went to a local wine bistro. For special occasions they will do a private wine tasting & tapas party with an amazing array of food. So during my fabulous birthday party DH gets a text. He had his phone on because DD13 was home alone. I see him make a face. I quietly ask him if something is wrong. He hands me his phone to read BM's text:
Could you please put more money into SD20's account? She is having to borrow money from her college friends so she she can go out.
BM knows what day my birthday is. She did this to cast her malevolent pall over my day. DH has repeatedly told SD that the money we send her monthly is all she is getting. SD chose to sit on her bum at BM's from mid-May until Sept. instead of getting a job. SD has an unlimited meal plan at college. We send her a generous allowance that should cover expenses if she had any sense of budgeting. Going out is not a necessity. We are not going to fund SD's partying.
DH replied to BM's text as follows: This is why SD needed to get a job this summer. So she could have spending money. The amount I send her is more than enough for essentials. If you want her to have more money you can send it to her.
DH's text was almost as good a birthday present as my party. 
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Happy Birthday! Yay DH! She
Happy Birthday! Yay DH!
She needs money to "Go Out"?!? Haha! Last time I checked, if you didn't have money to go out....you just didn't go out. Absurd! Definately an attempt to put doom and gloom on your BD celebration. So happy that your DH was able to turn this attempt into a bonus present for you!
OMG! the nerve of BM!! What a
OMG! the nerve of BM!! What a bitch!
Happy Birthday!!! DH
Happy Birthday!!!
DH shouldn't have texted back during your party.
For the record, as a SM, I never even thought about "what day" was BM's birthday. It wasn't something that was on my radar as a day I needed to remember... so... it's possible that BM didn't do it to be malevolent, but simply because she doesn't care enough about you to remember your birthday...
I am under no delusion that
I am under no delusion that BM cares about me. She does however know when my birthday is. It coincides with an important date for DH's family. For the first 6 years of our marriage BM would personally wish me a happy birthday when DH and I picked up the skids to attend the family's annual event. She often proclaimed that my birthdate was a sign that DH and I were destined to be together.
Text BM and ask her if she
Text BM and ask her if she can put some money into my account. I'd like to go see a movie. Popcorn and soda, too. Maybe she could spot me an extra fiver for some Hot Tamales.
Well, remember, they are used
Well, remember, they are used to getting CS for "going out money", as they feel that is also a right...so, really, nothing has changed, huh?
PS = Happy Birthday! Hope you had a good time anyway...but your DH should not have shown you the text at least until the next day...sigh
Happy Birthday!!!!!! Our BM
Happy Birthday!!!!!!
Our BM does the same crap to me!! Except she still sends my DH little texts like "happy thanksgiving, DH!!! Or ESP on my bday or anything important to I & DH she calls , texts, it's insane !!
How do I ask her to quit?? I take my SSs & my Dd to buy gifts for DH & she knows it. I've texted her before, simply & kindly to let her know that I took the kids out & they got presents & cards for DHs Bday, Christmas, etc. yet the witch still will hand MY DH a card or gift at kid exchange time!!!! Grrrr. She will give him a gift and say its from the kids--yet when asked if they picked it out or something, the kids will tell us they didn't pick it out & hell they don't even know what it is!!!!!!!! So- yeah---- my DHs ex wife still tried to buy him gifts...... From HER!!!!
How do I ask her to knock it off?? I kniw she only does it to tick me off!!!!!!! & it Fing works!!!!!! She will text my DH while she KNOWS we are celebrating whatever holiday it is!!!!! She still seems to think he is still hers & while we were dating- she tried numerous times to get back with DH---- while SHE was engaged!!!!!! She'd email or text him after her fiancé was asleep even. How do I get this bitdh to quit???
Ha. On our anniversary: - 2
Ha. On our anniversary:
- 2 days prior typically BM has a nervous breakdown of sorts and calls or emails something resembling such a breakdown
- the day of she has a party and takes all the children in her care (many) and her spouse to a very expensive restaurant (I think she's under the impression that this restaurant in town will be the only place DH will take me, I think she believes this would ruin our anniversary - sadly for her I despise this particular restaurant and prefer ones more downtown, so she can spend $500+ dollars on each anniversary! Enjoy! We *won't* EVER be there!)
Oh yes and ditto for ANY other holiday or event - there is *always* an issue with her - including and not limited to: birthdays, labour day, first day of school, halloween, thanksgiving, easter, oh OBVIOUSLY christmas (she's just off the wall *too happy-weird* then - like singing in my driveway to me weird).....
While she was engaged/dating/screwing whoever - she tried NUMEROUS times to get back with my husband, once crying while I was there (I walked into the room and she ran off to her car, leaving papers on the lawn and having to run back for them) into his arms bawling 'I'm soooo sorry, I miss yyouuuuu' - note: BM had a very nasty affair causing the divorce - yet 'couldn't decide whether to be with puppet (her H) or my husband' - he made the decision for her!
Honestly, some people on this
Honestly, some people on this site are such negative!
Most are bitter. Situations
Most are bitter. Situations like ones here generally SUCK. Hence the negativity.