It is not a lack of love...
It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages. - Friedrich Nietzsche
I thought this one sentence quote would make a great blog and jumping off point for some of our relationships. No more needs to be said!
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You are absolutely right on!
You are absolutely right on! My DH is my best friend and was before we even started our relationship. I absolutely love being married to my best friend.
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You are totally
You are totally right.
Without friendship you are missing the most important part of a relationship.
DH and I are best friends. People always think I'm weird because I don't want to do anything without him. We have lunch together every day. We always go to the store together. Everything together. And I don't want it any other way because he is my very best friend and I love doing everything with him. I wouldn't rather be with anyone else than him.
I believe that is because we are wonderful friends. We think alike, we have to same beliefs, we have the same goals, etc. We are very like minded. We have alot of fun together cutting jokes, acting stupid. We play PS3 together. We stay up late playing poker, just the two of us! He's the best friend I've ever had.
To make things better, he's my lover as well.
I love this blog Stick. It's 100% right. If you aren't friends then how can you be lovers?
"If you don’t adapt and look within yourself, you’ll just keep wading in that stagnant poisonous pool of stepparent hell." author: BitchBitchBarbie
I guess I'm the oddball
I guess I'm the oddball again. For the most part I believe this to be true. HOWEVER, I've known couples who have divorced with the reasoning being: the love was gone, it was like living with a friend. This, I believe, is also why many people stray in their marriages. I think it takes BOTH love and friendship. The friendship part maintains a connection of companionship. But the love part is what makes us feel bonded like a real couple.
Dh and TheFrizz were such
Dh and TheFrizz were such good friends they weren't even attracted to each other anymore. They described their marriage as glorified roommates and more convenient than anything. So I definitely agree with what you're saying NMF. Love,passion,friendship,communication...those are the keys
"Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else." ~Judy Garland
My DH once sent me that
My DH once sent me that quote.
We live by it.
Nietzsche rocks. DH and I
Nietzsche rocks.
DH and I are very good friends...but I (gasp!) agree with Barbie and No More..there has to be passion and love there as well.
When DH and I are fighting, it is great to have that friendship to fall back on when we can't be on the same page as "lovers". A strong foundation is key...and a friendship is a part of that...but not all.
But, if you didn't have any friendship at all, just passion and lust...your relationship wouldn't last either. Little more than a glorified one night stand if it even lasts for a period of time.
Balance. Just like everything else in this world.
~It is not your flesh and blood that makes you a parent....it is your true heart.~
"Balance.Just like
"Balance.Just like everything else in this world" <----exactly.
"Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else." ~Judy Garland