I am a stepmom of two girls ages 14 and 8. I have a great relationship with both girls, although it took some time because of all the common struggles of stepmom life (resentment, disrespect, disobeyed). My biggest struggle is their mother and the financial situation between her and my husband. Over the past 5 years, my husband has handed her ~$600,000, NOT including child support, which is an additional $3,250/ month until the girls are 21 years old.