OT: Fiance's coworker needs a place to stay for "a few weeks" -- HELP!
Okay, we live in a 3 bedroom house with 2 bathrooms. We have the skids half the week, and they share a room. We have a roommate (who will only be living with us until winter) who pays rent and who has the other bedroom. His room and the kids room shares a bathroom. He also uses our family room as his own living room -- he has his TV, couch, and computer in there. Our arrangement with the roommate is great for now, as he works a lot and also stays at his girlfriend's house a lot too...we really rarely see him, and when we do, we all get along great. Anyway, even though the extra money is nice and he's a great roommate to have, I'm really looking forward to not having him stay with us anymore. There will be extra room for the kids to play in the family room and I will use his bedroom as the nursery.
For the last three weeks, one of my fiance's coworkers has been asking him if he can stay with us for "awhile". He says he's transfering to a different town and that it will be a temporary stay. He's a nice guy and everything but we just don't have ANY room left in our house for another person!!! Plus I don't know him very well so I know it will be really uncomfortable. Both me and our current roommate all agree that we don't have any space at our house and that we'd both be pretty PO'd if fiance lets this guy stay with us without an end-date. Apparently he's still waiting on paperwork to go through before his transfer....could be three weeks, could be a month??
GRRRR! Today DF calls me and says that the guy is saying that he HAS to leave his current situation by the weekend. He has barely any money, so he can't rent a place of his own. All of his money goes towards his 4 or 5 kid's child support with different mothers! He was living with his ex and her kids and I guess their situation is getting pretty bad as they've been broken up again for a month. Plus, he told DF that he will need help "moving" his stuff. WHAT? If he has to MOVE his stuff then NO FREAKING WAY. I was thinking a duffle bag....where the hell would we keep his crap too??? DF knows how I feel about this, and how our roommate feels about it. He shares our opinion but he feels really bad for the guy. DF is too nice to people sometimes. I understand that but what the heck are we, a welfare agency???
And I can see where this is going....it's going to get to the point where we have to kick him out and feel bad for it. ARRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG!
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"No no no no no no no! Do not let this happen! His problems are not YOUR problems. His "story" doesn't quite ring true."
My DH is always bringing home
My DH is always bringing home "strays" as well. We have established a 2 week rule, it usually takes about 2 weeks before "guests" drive me crazy so it works well for me cause I'm not the bad guy.
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Absolutely not!! He has his
Absolutely not!! He has his kids to worry about!! The house is crowded w/another adult there as it is!! It would probably be a huge mistake. And yeah maybe he should saran wrap from head to toe and stop reproducing.
Agreed. No no no no!!! First,
Agreed. No no no no!!! First, there is no end date. Second, he won't pay rent?! Third, not only is he asking for a place to live but he needs help moving? Sorry. Where are the skids supposed to sleep? Tell dh that having a random stranger around his kids is NOT a good idea. He can blame you and the upcoming baby and hormones if he needs to. But don't give him an option or let him think you are remotely ok with this. Flat out tell him no and that if he wants to help this guy out so much then he can move out with this guy because you aren't having it.
Everything you've all said is
Everything you've all said is reiterating what I've been saying since this got brought up. I completely told DF to use me as his scapegoat...that I'm crazy hormonal and pregnant and emotional and don't think I can handle another person in the house. I told him to make up stories that we have family coming to town, that our roommate has friends coming next weekend, that my mom is coming.....WHATEVER he has to say to get this guy to NOT stay with us!
I'm so scared that DF will cave and tell him yes....then will come crawling to me with sad puppy dog eyes...then will look ridiculous if he backs out after telling him yes. IF I will allow this to happen, I've decided the hand-out expires in ONE WEEK and he only brings necessities...none of the moving in crap.
Not even. Even if he says
Not even. Even if he says yes, then he will have to go back and say no and make himself look stupid. If he says yes after all you have told him then he obviously isn't considering your feelings and situation. Helping people is fine, but not when you can't do it. Warn hubby if this guy moves in hat those hormones will probably make every me in that house lives miserable. No joke. Seriously with hormones it seems every emotion is worse and ifyou aren't happy with it I bet you will make it known that you are angry. Just my opinion. Good luck either way!
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