I bought DF tickets to an NHL game (he's never been to one but is a huge fan). I picked a weekend we DON'T have the skids...makes sense, right? We will travel 4 hours for a long weekend, stay at DF's brother's for 2 nights and have one night in a hotel. It will be our "last hurrah" before the baby comes in February. Of course we were excited, right?

BM mentioned to DF two months ago that she wants to switch a weekend in January. DF told her probably won't be a big deal, but to let him know which date as it gets closer. She never explained what it was for and she did not tell him WHICH weekend. Of course, DF forgot about this and never even mentioned it to me.

Lo and behold, BM is GOING TO THE SAME FREAKING GAME! AND she's pissed that DF didn't "know" about how he agreed to switch that weekend. GRRRRR. She tried to place fault on ME that SOMEHOW it's MY fault that she never told DF which weekend she wanted to switch? If I had known she was going to THAT game I would CERTAINLY have picked a DIFFERENT game to go to! DUH! Like hell I want to have a special weekend with DF out of town and run the chance that we'd run into BM at the same event! I could easily have chosen the weekend before that game, because I was trying to decide between them anyway.

BM's just going to dump the kids off on anyone she can for that weekend -- Friday through Monday.

And here's the clincher...we'll probably end up taking the skids, even though it's her weekend. I'm 8 months pregnant...not like we're going to a big city to party. Also we're visiting DF's family while we're there, who have a 2 year old. It's not like it's the end of the world to have the skids for that weekend. The part that sucks is that to BM it's like we're doing HER a favor...so IF we do end up taking the skids I'm going to make DAMN SURE that BM knows it is NOT to do her any favors, but it's so that the kids can see their cousin/family and that we think it's more important for the skids to have a FAMILY weekend rather than sit with a babysitter all weekend. However, it'd be sure nice to get a little fee from her to pay for something to do with the skids that weekend....haha! After all, we'll be taking SD5 also, who technically no longer comes with us on weekends. So basically we'll be SD's babysitter....should we not be paid similarly?? }:)

I just hate that everything has to revolve around BM and her plans, and that we always have to pick up her crappy parenting slack. I know that in THEORY we don't HAVE to, but then we are nagged with guilt and thinking about what's really best for the kids...and we end up giving in.