I don't have this issue, but I do understand...I actually had to learn the opposite with DH...He lacked in the affectionate department. He's not overly affectionate with SD at all, and IMO, sometimes he can be quite cold...It comes from his family dynamic. His mom and sister have a very different "affection" than I have...They only touch when necessary, lol...

SD sits under DH occasionally when he's watching TV, but that's it...Honestly, I wouldn't mind him being more affectionate with her...He's actually A LOT more affectionate with our DS than he is with SD...I asked him about that, and he said he thinks it has something to do with his connection with DS and being in his life from day one with out any struggles or drama...He's always been free to love him...

I totally get some of the weird stuff that a lot of SMs post on here, though...Some of the stuff is very weird...

It drives me crazy to see SD10 all over DH. It would be ok if she were 3. Or even 5 or 6. But there has to be a point where it stops. I still hug my dad. But the days of being held in his lap were over by the time I was 7.

I feel you on this one!!!! SD10.5 Does the same kind of crap. And she will run and jump to him and wrap her legs around him. Icks me out!!! Totally!!! :sick:

At a particular point it will be inappropriate, but for right now, not so much. My dad still held my hand to cross the street when I was 35.... YMMV. (personally, i like that affection can be seen and not just a thought).

It's a natural feeling. I think part of it is gross and repulsive to us because they are another female getting physical attention from the man that gives it to us.

My FSD13 LOOOOOVES to get under my skin by trying to sit on her dads lap on the couch, and up until last year would try to climb under covers with him on the couch.
It really pushed my buttons especially because she's been FULLY developed physically since age ten. Boobs, hips, period and all. Has been wearing full makeup since age 11 and looks like a younger twin of BM.

I put my foot down a few weeks ago with my SO and told him it was the last straw for me as he was calling us both Baby and smacking us both playfully on the butt. I said, pick one. It's really inappropriate that we have the same " definition" . Since then, he doesn't smack her butt anymore, he said at the time he didn't know he was doing it.
Now, if he's calling her anything resembling baby, its not within earshot of me.

Trust me. I Understand your feeling completely. It is jealousy partly but also territorial too.

You're not alone!

Both SS8 and SD6 are like this, it's sickening and SO actually realizes and really doesn't tolerate it much, like he is affectionate towards them of course but when it starts to go overboard simply because of jealousy or whatever he will actually tell them to knock it off. I remember back a long time ago when he'd get them in trouble they would start with the crying and the daaaaaadddddyyyyyy! I love you! I want you to kiss me and hug me! Daaaaaaaaaa! HURL! He finally realized they were doing this to get out of a punishment because he was always giving in feeling all sorry for them and then would coddle them. Now he tells them that they need to have their time out and calm down THEN he will be happy to give them a kiss and hug.

If either of the younger boys are receiving any type of attention from SO the skids espesh SS8 will run over and push them away and try to crawl all over his father, a long time ago he use to pull the whole "THAT'S MY DAAAAAAADDDDYYYYYY!" shit but I haven't heard him say that to any of the little ones in a long time. THANK GOD!