For those of you who are following my 'drama', SD has replied. While DH and I were reading her letter, DH stated that a lot of it sounded like BM. I agree with him. Much of what was written is more of a concern to BM, not SD. After reading further, we noticed that the letter is typed in 2 different fonts. So yes, it looks as if BM typed the first half and SD typed the 2nd. Unfortunately, it doesn't show on here after copying and pasting. Let me apologize in advance on their behalf for the glaring usage, typo, and punctuation errors. (I knew she should have stayed in school). But here it is, all laid out.

Stepoff,

I wrote you this letter the other day previous to you finding my dads personal letter from me and replying to it. So i am sending you the old letter and a response to your email.

This past year or two has been very rough for all of us and i figured I would come clean to you about how i feel about all of this. When you and my dad first got together i had absolutely no issue with you what so ever, and my mom had no issue with you either. Her and my dad never were even CLOSE to getting back together ever, so she had no reason to dislike you for that reason and I never wanted them back together so i never hated you cause you were with my dad either. But what shady things you started to pull down the road is what made me lose respect for you. I apologize if you believe that i am disrespectful to you but i feel i should not have to be fake to you because I do have some issues with you. I am sure both you and my dad do not understand what issues i have with you but I want to make sure you know so you both understand why I act the way i do.

Ever since the wedding, it has been a constant struggle/problem for me and SS to see my dad (which should not even be a problem). For one, he is my father and we have been his kids for 20 some years, we have every right to see him whenever we please. But you seem to believe since we are both over 18 that we are on our own and he shouldn't have to worry about us or help us out financially at all. ( Example: when you made that document about him not paying for any future schooling for me after pivot point. As far as i know in the divorce papers he is entitled to pay for my schooling because its only fair since he paid for SS's). I found this funny and ironic that he not allowed to help us in any sort of way and were in our 20's but you guys are alot older than us and my grandparents and your parents still to this day help you both out(living with them), so that is being hypocritical. He is my dad and he is allowed to help us in any way we need. I NEVER ask him for money so its not like i am out to get his money. I work my butt off to pay my bills, i never see any of my paychecks, it goes right to bills/loans. So when i am in desperate need for help, I should be able to ask my dad to help and he should be allowed to help me. He works hard for his money and we are his kids too, not just BSs. I understand you want him to financially support your kids together but just cause he has a new family DOES NOT mean he has to completely cut me and my brother off just cause we are older.

Also, is that you going and talking to the insurance company and getting my bills separated to my address was completely unnecessary. I got a phone call from them confirming my address and i thought that was weird cause i know I DIDNT call, and i confronted my dad and he didn't call and either did my mom, so all signs point to you making sure that that was being done. Which i don't appreciate. I know that me being under my dads insurance probably makes you mad but AGAIN I am his daughter and that's our business.

Another thing. BSs are just as much my dads kids as they are yours. I understand you might not feel comfortable with me around them but they are my brothers too and i have rights to see them as well and so does SS. By you pulling that stunt the other day when you KNEW that they were supposed to come to lunch with us , and you wouldn’t let them come with my dad. That was completely uncalled for and rude. By you acting like this and pulling these stunts aren't going to make me respect you more and you believe that's our issue is respect. SS and I have not even seen my baby brother with his eyes open. Everyone in Ohio got to see him more than once and i live in the SAME STATE and i had approx. 10 mins with him in the hospital room before we got rushed out of there. That is horrible and it really hurts me to know that I am basically forbidden to see my brothers. I think that is horrible and they are my family too. And the fact that SS got to be BS2's godfather and my dad told me he would like me to be BS1 godmother when he told us you were having him and then it was never mentioned again and that really hurt my feelings.

You can think i am disrespectful all you want, but i feel like i have also been getting disrespected. You knew going into this marriage that my dad had baggage. My mom has left him alone, all she has needed to contact him for is things pertaining to SS and I, that is it. My mom has no need to talk to him whatsoever. You also knew that marrying my dad you also had to deal with me and SS. Everyone has baggage and you can't change that no matter how hard you try or how much you would like to. SS and I will always be in my dads life no matter what, and thats that. That will never change. To gain respect you have to give it, and i feel like i have never gotten the respect from you. I always felt like you were out to get me. Not so much SS but me. I never did anything to you, never was against you, never wanted you to NOT date my dad, never wanted Any of that. But after pulling these stunts I don't have any respect, and I believe I have every right to feel this way.

This letter was not to bash you, or yell at you or anything. It was to get my point across because for my dad and families sake I didn't want to start any trouble in Ohio , and I felt like you needed to know how i felt because i don't want you honestly believing i have no reason to disrespect you. I have bit my tounge for too long and tried to be civil but its gone too far. I personally don't see anyone happy in this situation, and thats an issue. I want my dad to be happy, and for the boys to be safe, healthy and happy. The way things are going i don't see any good in this. I wish it didn't have to be this way but it is, and that's that. It's not 100% my fault, i have every right to feel the way i feel and speak up about it.

For my dad lets put all this behind us in front of the family cause thats the last thing any one needs but i am not saying that i can be totally nice and forget about what has happened. That is very hard for me to forgive and forget, especially when it has to do with my family. I apologize if you believe this letter was rude or uncalled for but i felt it was the best way to approach the situation. Feel free to respond back.

SD21

...................... and in response to your letter.

I for one do not appreciate you going through emails that i wrote PERSONALLY to my father. As you said My relationship with my dad is in my hands and is our business then by saying that, I am allowed to send my dad emails, texts or calling him without having to worry that you will somehow find it and read it.

As for my relationship with my father, it is between me and him. Yes i know you are married to him but when you say its in our hands to call and visit, well then why is it that it seems next to impossible to get him to get together with me or my brother (besides coming for a haircut) without you having a say in it or without it being a struggle to bring his kids. So blaming other people is silly but when its the truth and I do feel as if i have lost a relationship with him since you coming into his life.

As for the marriage thing. At the beginning I thought maybe things could be fixed to me it just seems like now theres so many issues ( especially my brother and i being an issue with you). But your right thats my opinion and i will keep that to myself but if i feel like i want to talk to my father about it i should be able to, again, our business.

As for your life together and your finances, yes its none of my business but when it comes to my father helping me out with my school (which is is obligated, on paper) then that is considered YOUR finances because you two are married, so that part is my business.

Jealousy of my brothers? Now that is ridiculous and uncalled for. He has been a father to me for 21 years and never in those 21 years have i felt so neglected from him for the past 2 years. I love BSs even though i don't really ever get a chance to know them, i would never be jealous or expect my dad to neglect them because feeling neglected from your father is a terrible feeling, and i would never wish that upon anyone else. As for my HATEFUL VIEWPOINTS, yes i don't get along with you, but i would NEVER ever say things in front of them about you, or bash you in front of them, what do you think i am, satan? That is awful that you believe that would be an issue.

I honestly believe you have never tried. In my eyes you have never wanted me in the picture from the get-go. So don't sit here and say you've tried cause believe what you want but i am not the type to hate someone for NO apparent reason. I have my reasons so apparently, no you have not tried, not even remotely close. The letter above should make you understand this more.

That hole letter basically in nicer words made it seem like i am the rudest, most immature person you have ever met. but if you actually gave it the chance to realize that I am a nice person and I do try and see the good in people and give them a chance but when it comes to family its different. I am very mature for my age,There are not many kids my age that pay for their bills and do pretty much everything on their own besides living on their own. I do everything myself, I don't need a helping hand and I don't rely on anyone, even family. So your facts are not facts as well. I would really appreciate if you didn't write to me like you know me like the back of your hand, cause based on your response you don't know me at all.

As for me as well, i can forgive but never forget. I am sorry it had to be this way but gaining respect from me is highly unlikely at this point just because like you said, too much has been said and done. But as for my father, Like you said our relationship is OUR business and our business only, therefore you have no idea how i treat him or feel about him, and I have always respected my father, so don't accuse me of disrespecting him. Our relationship is between me and him. If he had an issue with respect with me, he can address me himself.

As for boycotting your home. I never started a boycott. I was forbidden by YOU to not come over, even to cut my fathers hair, when i offered to do it in the garage far away from you. That is my dads house and i should be welcomed at any time. So there is another case in which you have influenced my dad into keeping me from him.

That is how i feel and i am sorry it had to be this way, but Things happened for a reason and all i wish is my dad and my brothers happiness. As for ohio i will be civil for the family cause that is the last thing they need, they have other problems to deal with. I am not saying i will be extremely friendly. Lets just stay away from each other as much as possible and there will be no issue.