BM of SD6 and SD10 decided that she wanted to move out of state to be with her boyfriend. (The same guy she cheated on BD with when they were still married) For the past nearly TWO years, I have been the mom to these two girls who were 5 and 8 at the time she left. I have since implemented RULES and demonstrated consistency and have expetations of them such as simple household chores. (make bed, scoop cat litter, set table)