Yeah that is not good, but can I give you some silver lining here. He must of fought with her alot and during an agrument he thought of fighting with her instead of fighting with you. I would be angry but then have to stop and think and tell him you are so very lucky you didnt say in with the lines I Love You. lol......

*eek* that would totally freak me out, too! I can see, tho, how he might have slipped in an argument. I'm sure the majority of that type of argument was with her, and maybe the circumstances with the child were something similar to what they used to fight about? Whatever the reason, he should definitely apologize so that you can let it go. Sorry!

I have done this... and I wasn't even mad at the time. I wasn't trying to be mean or anything. I could DEF see saying it especially when you are pissed. Your defenses are down.

Now I am sure that my DH would have done the same thing IF me and his wide load ex-wife did not have the same name. He denies that he hs ever done this, but I am fairly certain that he is human and that if we didn't have the same name he would have.

So I wouldn't take it personally. Now if he called you be her pet name... it would be game on!!!!

Deep breaths...... stepmom21, deep breathes....

If it makes you feel any better my DH has mistakenly called me ex's name a couple times. A few times during a heated argument and a few times in passing conversation. The first time he did it was during an argument and needless to say, I was SO furious about the mix up that whatever we were first arguing about, he backed off on quickly. I didn't let that go for several days first I was just mad/mean about it, then painfully sarcastic about it. Then when it happened again all I have had to do is look of death/gasp and he immediately starts rambling into an apology. Truthfully, after the first time, it really wasn't that big of a deal but I like to make him suffer a little bit nonetheless.

I really hope your husband wises up and apologizes whether he thinks he did it or not. It really is in his best interest.

The fact that he won't admit it or even an "I'm sorry" is irritating as hell. I'm sorry that happened to you, I would flip out if DH EVER called me the wrong name

On the bright side at least he didn't say x's name during the heat of a "moment"

oouch

men don't have brains, they have a penis

My dh has never done this but I've definitely called him xh name in the middle of argument and explained to him the only time vie ever thought of xh with dh is in the middle of a fight... And we only ever ever figt about his stupid snotty brat kids... He he he... Oh, and one time he was laying on my hair and in the middle of the night I called him xh.

So I suggest u just give him a break. It's going to happen.

I had a boyfriend who called me by his ex's while I was giving him a blow job and the worst part is that she had the same name as my sister! So you see it can be worse - let it go - he did not mean to do it - you were fighting and he knows if he calls you by his ex's name it will only be worse - it happened - if it happens again then let loose but everyone is allowed 1 screw up - by the way my boyfriend did not get to finish that night and it cost him dearly the next time we went shopping but I did not stay mad too long - people are human and slipups will happen!

Some people just aren't that good at getting the right name for the right person - I call my two kids by the wrong names all the time - and one's a boy and one's a girl!! My DH called me the ex's name once when we were chatting with his parents. He was mortified and apologised profusely. I didn't fuss and it hasn't ever happened again. But even if it did I would give him a break - he was with her for nearly 20 years. By your reaction on your post, I'm not surprised he didn't want to admit to it though!

Geez, if I had $1 for every time I was called XW#2, I'd be getting a pretty good dinner. DH slips pretty frequently, in and out of arguments. It's really gotten to the point where I just kind of look at him until he realizes what he did. And then it's over. But the in-laws call me XW's name; Hell, people i work with who don't even know this woman call me her name. It's pretty common and I guess I look like one. Ha! I do this with my DD and SK's too - just go down the list of names.

Don't get too worked up over this because it's natural. I would guess that your DH and his XW fought alot and since you two were having an argument, it probably resorted back to habit.

Never had that happen. I wouldn't take too bad though, especially if it was during an argument, as the Ex and DH argued a lot. My DH gets our birthdays mixed up (they are a day apart).

My DH has called me by his ex's name a few times. I think it would be more but he covers by saying SD's name (both exW and SD name start with "S"). I get "even" by turning around and calling him by my exH's name. It kinds breaks the tension...

It happens.

Most frequiently during fights. I have done the same to my wife, she has done the same to me. I have called her by my XW's name during arguements (occassionally but not frequently) and she has called me by the SpermIdiots name during arguements (occassionally but not frequently).

This is likely due to the programming we both received during our former relationships and the upleasantness associated with the Xs name.

This is not a problem IMHO.

Now, if he called you by his XW names while you are both in the throws of passion ..... that could be a problem. :jawdrop:

IMHO of course.

My DH did that one time when we were arguing. I made it clear that it upset me. MIL calls me by BM's name every so often. She had a stroke about a year after DH & I met & it affected her short-term memory. Sometimes it just comes out because that's the name that's stuck in her long-term memory. I don't correct her anymore. I just reply. LOL!

I'm not sure if my thinking is right, but when DH did it to me in the middle of our argument, I just told myself that because him & BM fought so often, that's what brought it out to the surface for him.

No man would do that on purpose. It was a mistake.

I have done this in the middle of an argument...my explanation was that I was always mad at ex so it came back....I would be mad also but I understand how that could happen....

DH has done that to me a few times. Usually after he had been arguing heatedly with the babymomma. The one that really enraged me was when we were sitting on the sofa together, being real lovey dovey, he looked me in the eyes and said i love you iwishyouwoud mymiddlename...pause... bm's last name. I stared at him, dead in the eyes, he got a look of panic, and i said flatly my last name is not X. I got up, walked out of the room and steamed. He came chasing after me and groveled. I couldnt even look at him till the next day and i wanted to slap him accross the face. That was a few years ago and i dont really have a moral to that story except that it happens. I had the most vivid dream a few weeks ago where i was being very intimate with an ex boyfriend from at least six years ago. I hadnt thought about that boy in years. But ill be damned if i didnt wake up thinking he was gonna be in bed with me. All im saying is that our subconscious plays tricks on us and it happens. I mean, for christs sakes, my dad has called me my mothers name in a conversation and not corrected himself a hundred times. it happens.

This has happened to me. I just use it against him when he ticks me off ; ) And sometimes when his dumbass decides to slip up and tell me things about the kids and his ex...I start talking about my ex and how we shared a dog together! And then I tell him how much I loved that dog...and boy I miss him...he behaved so well and never talked back...yada yada yada and then I drop the , welp I guess I will give the ex a call bomb to check on my dog.