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Submitted by Stepmom2.0 on Fri, 04/05/2019 - 3:43pm

DH and I have been living like roomates instead of husband and wife. We had to finalized a few things but that's all done and over now. He moved into his new place yesterday. I kept it together when he handed me back the keys. The second he drove off, I went into the washroom to cry my eyes out. Guess I should start addressing him as stbx-DH

I just want to thank all my fellow Steptalkers for all the support and advice I was given. It was invaluable

 

Another SM bites the dust

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Submitted by Stepmom2.0 on Thu, 01/24/2019 - 9:03am

After being married for 10 years, my relationship with Dh has deteriorated.

We've talked and come to a mutual desicion that our marriage isn't salvageable. And he asked for a divorce. 

There is no doubt that he loves BD8 but he also loves OSS22 and YSS20 as he should. OSS has wanted me out of the picture since he was 12. It took 10 years but he finally got his wish. 

 

Is divorce in my future??

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Submitted by Stepmom2.0 on Wed, 01/16/2019 - 4:39pm

We've been fighting nonstop. I told Dh that I feel as though he's punishing me and he said that he's not out to punish me. He just wants his sons back and I'm looking for reasons to not want his sons around. I've never said anything of the sort. He becomes very defensive about his sons whenever they're brought up in a conversation.

Everything falling apart

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Submitted by Stepmom2.0 on Wed, 01/09/2019 - 2:29pm

Ever since Dh sat down with OSS a month ago to clear up the air everything has changed- not in the good way. He didn't not tell me what exactly they talked about. All he said was he's getting both of hs sons back in his life again. 

We've been fighting more than ever. Anything I say to him makes him angry. He spends all of his free time outside of the house with OSS,his boyfriend, and YSS. 

OSS agreed to meet Dh

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Submitted by Stepmom2.0 on Sun, 12/09/2018 - 1:15am

Dh has been wanting to speak to OSS in order to clear up the air. He texted OSS again and he responded with 

"I should have let mom beat you. I was 12 years old and was rushing to your aid and you just tossed me out like common trash"

After what appears to be a very prolonged and heartwenching back and forth, OSS agreed to meet with dh. This is the first time they're going to be speaking in 6 years. 

YSS let Dh have it. Dh thinks of himself as a failure.

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Submitted by Stepmom2.0 on Sun, 12/02/2018 - 10:31pm

Dh asked mil for OSS and YSS's number since they both blocked them on everything a few years back. She gave them and he texted them both saying "Hey [OSS/YSS]  I miss you very much and I'm asking if you would consider meeting up with me in order to put the past behind us and work on becoming  family again."

 OSS didn't reply and  YSS went off! He told DH everything in regards with OSS and how we did him wrong. 

I'm back after 6 years

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Submitted by Stepmom2.0 on Mon, 11/26/2018 - 1:36am

I deleted my account thinking my step-horror was finshed after Oss22- whose was 16 at the time was banned from our home after the calling CPS saying that he was being abused. His definition of "abuse" was being held accountable for his actions, have assigned chores, or having to follow rules. He did not appreciate that we provided a clean, safe, caring environment. Bm would do anything to hurt Dh including damage his relationship with his sons. 

Dh was not the greatest father to OSS. When he was little, OSS had to witness  BM and Dh arguing.