Cleaning mess before returning to other home!!!!
How do you handle SKID messes in common areas when they're left out before they leave? We have week on/off with SD9. Every week after SD leaves as I go through the house her stuff is everywhere! I dont care about her pigsty room I just close the door. I've talked with DH about it and he always "forgets" to remind her to put her things away the day before she returns to BM. It's happened numerous times. I've picked up stuff and just thrown in her room, but I don't even think I should have to do that. My frustration now is that BS1 is mobile and small choking hazard things are left out so I HAVE to clean up after her for the safety of BS. What should I do?
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I bet if you put all her
I bet if you put all her stuff on DH's side of the bed he will start remembering.
Then wait until he goes to
Then wait until he goes to sleep and liter the floor on his side of the bed with her crap. I bet you only have to do it twice.
OR pull out the big guns on him, if he forgets to tell her to pick up her crap again and you end up doing it then the next time he wants to get frisky just let him know how tired you are from picking up after SD.
I kept taking it all and
I kept taking it all and putting it on DH's pillow. He got the message. There is still stuff but overall he's managing her better.
I have done this before! He
I have done this before! He did ok for a little while but it's becoming a problem again!!!
If you hide or toss her
If you hide or toss her items, Daddy will fall over himself running out to buy more.
I'll assume Dad has arms and both arms aren't broken. So kid cleans or Daddy continues to let her forget and he cleans. It's that easy. His kid, his mess.
FWIF, small items that are dangerous for baby need to be played with in SD's room. Even while she's still there to clean/put away when done. Mobile babies are way to fast and curious to chance.
Toss a few used diapers (the
Toss a few used diapers (the really bad ones) in a garbage bag. Add SD's "crap"
Give SD the "bag of crap". }:) }:) }:)
I did this with my biokids
I did this with my biokids when they wouldn't clean up. I started it when they were very young.
Everything went into a bag and kept in my closet. They had to earn it back with extra chores. Of course it didn't take very long for them to learn to clean up when I said clean up.
We did have a relapse when they were teenagers and thought they ruled the world but I stood my ground and we all lived through it.
Of course I didn't have a Disney dad who would replace the lost items.
SD sounds like Aergia - I
SD sounds like Aergia - I toss it....
the rule is clear, your shit belongs in your room not in the living room.... anything in the living room is waste and will be tossed... first SO got angry with me, now he's doing it himself..
and no he's not replacing anything, he simply says - you have a room why did you not take it away...
I hide DH's car keys and tell
I hide DH's car keys and tell him AND the kids (SD15/SS10) they have 1h to clean up all their stuff or else it gets thrown out.
I can't tell you how many bags of SD's crap has been thrown away because of this....then she cries to BM who bitches to DH who just says "Oh well she doesn't want to put her stuff away-it gets trashed....unless you want to come be her maid-stfu"
hahahahaha I hide SO's car
hahahahaha I hide SO's car keys as well under all his junk.... then he tidies up to find the keys..
he only starts looking if the 5th spare set is missing... this way the workshop gets cleaned out every 3 months
My mother was a toss it type.
My mother was a toss it type. DH thinks that's too harsh (what a surprise right) I think I'll try the family cleaning thing and the earning stuff back option. If neither works or DH "forgets". The next step will be going into the garbage!
My parents were trash bag and
My parents were trash bag and pitcher of ice water parents. If we did not keep our space orderly it got pitched and if we did not get our butts out of bed on time it was a one time "get up!" followed a few minutes later by the tinkling sounds of a pitcher of ice water being prepared in the kitchen followed by a firm march down the hallway to deliver the second wake up call. }:)
$#!t would start
$#!t would start disappearing. when dh is NOT around. "what? no hunny i haven't seen dh's xyz. she has gotten SO much better about cleaning up after herself tho'! maybe you should check her room?" "no dear, i haven't seen abc, but i'm SURE sd put it right back where it goes!"
Oh yes, memories. If SDs did
Oh yes, memories.
If SDs did not clean up I made sure DH did it.
That was one of my requirements before I moved in with him because I knew it was an issue.
I would, and still do, throw things (including trash left around) into their rooms and shut the door.
I would, and still do, throw things off the deck.
I would, and still do, throw things into the trash or into the donation bag.
SD10 caught on quick and she rarely leaves things out.
SD12 not so much.
If it gets really bad and DH isn't responding I'll simply say, "You do it NOW or I'll take care of it and NO ONE will like that."