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Not music to my ears (the final chapter)

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Submitted by stepgf212 on Fri, 07/16/2021 - 9:42pm

Hello Friends! Just a quick update and sincere request for a pep talk from those who can relate. My back story is this: my boyfriend (of 4 years), father of 8 teenaged children (from his previous wife) and I lived in blissful tranquility, with our two cats, up until a year ago. That is when the storm broke: six of his kids moved in with us full time. It was pretty much a rocky ride for me from the get-go. The kids, although good at heart, have destroyed the house and much of my sanity. My boyfriend hasn't really had my back throughout any of this.

Being treated as invisible by teenagers...who can relate?

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Submitted by stepgf212 on Wed, 06/02/2021 - 2:22pm

This has probably been asked more than once, but, does the following happen to anyone else? The kids only address their Dad in conversation or in relation to anything involving you. Ex. You and your husband/bf are in their car on the way to pick up the kids. The kids see both of you in car and say "Dad is coming with the car". "Dad, guess what happened today" "Dad, I need help with..." And you will be sitting right there ! Does this annoy/hurt anyone else, or am I going crazy here?? Thank you in advance for your insights! 

Not music to my ears (part 3)

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Submitted by stepgf212 on Tue, 03/02/2021 - 5:44pm

For those that may have missed it or don't know of my situation, here is a quick recap. My boyfriend of 4 years is the father of 8 children, all from the same woman (crazy ex wife). Ages range from 12-18. About six months ago, six of the children moved in with us full time. They are mostly estranged from their mom, who they said was abusive. Prior to them moving in, we saw them sporadically. It was just my boyfriend , me and our two cats in our nice quiet home. I had a good relationship with most of the kids, and they were ok to me. But then they all unexpectedly moved in late last summer.

Not music to my ears (the sequel)

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Submitted by stepgf212 on Mon, 02/01/2021 - 4:50pm

Hello! A couple months ago around Christmas time, I had a vent session with you kind strangers. I had expressed doubt and frustration about the living situation and state of my relationship with my boyfriend. To recap: he's got 8 bio-kids (from the same woman). Six of the kids recently moved in with us full time unexpectedly. Their bio mom is said to have been an unfit parent who had mental issues. So I attempted to go with the flow and accept the kids. They range in age from 12-18. It's been a rough transition, as the kids, although not inherently evil, are destructive and disrespectful.

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Not music to my ears

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Submitted by stepgf212 on Thu, 12/24/2020 - 3:47am

After the pandemic, 6/8 of my boyfriend's children (ranging in age from 12-18) came to live with us full time. I have no children of my own besides my cats. His kids are good people, but they are very LOUD and sing all night long. They also stomp around like elephants and throw footballs, etc. It's kind of like being in the real life Sound of Music, except not anywhere near as fun!!  Plus they have completely destroyed our house. My only safe space is our bedroom, but they come in while I'm at work and have taken some of my things.

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