I have been dating SO for about 4 months, now, but we've known each other for longer. Throughout our friendship, we've been just that, friends, nothing more, nothing less. I've known about him and BM's issues, and how after he ran through some financial hardships in August of 2019, and he requested of her to get a job- she said she would, but as of April 2020, when SO and I got together, she hasn't moved her bum to do anything. She doesn't clean, nor cook for her own kids.