I have been married to DH for over 10 years now and For at least 8 years he has been saying it'll get better when they're older but Guess what it's not getting better only worse. ss12 is bi-polar and almost uncontrollable but we can not afford residential care and BM hasn't seen or asked about him or his siblings since September. She was(not sure she still is) working as a housekeeper,she has no home of her own,and no vehicle.I can see DH getting over whelmed with him 24/7 but I am helping him every way I can. I don't know what to do I feel beaten and broken everyday.