Hey guys,

We've had a lot of trouble with SD8 lying lately. It's usually small stuff, but it's been happening more and more frequently. We don't want her to become a compulsive liar like BM, so we're taking this very seriously. We've been practicing positive reinforcement for truth-telling.

Last week SD lied about something that was a huge deal. She lied to FDH and I, plus her teacher. Then she made up even more elaborate stories to cover up her lies to try to avoid getting into trouble. Needless to say, she failed miserably at it. We've tried yelling, spanking, grounding, taking away privileges, calm discussions, etc. You name it, we've tried it. Oh, and also sentence writing. Well today, I was discussing with FDH that I felt since SD has been so good at being grounded (no whining or complaining, doing tasks as assigned when asked) that I had decided to start giving SD back some small privileges until her grounding period is officially over Monday after school. Well SD ruined all that by lying to us yet AGAIN about something that happened at school today. The teacher has been having trouble with SD talking in class. Today SD had to be asked to be quiet 3 times in as many minutes literally. This was during a test and the teacher explained to us that SD and another kid that sits by her were both done with the test and were just chit-chatting. The teacher explained all of this to us in front of SD. As soon as we got in the car, SD came up with a big story about how she had not just been talking about random stuff, but that other kids had been asking SD to help them cheat and she was busy telling them "no". Well, this may have happened once, but not all three times and SD eventually fessed up to lying about that too. Come on, the kid that she was talking to was DONE with the test, so wouldn't have needed the answers.

So my question is, do any of you wise ladies and/or gents have any good advice about another approach to take on this? Anything that has worked for yall in the past? Currently SD is grounded, still writing 100 sentences a day(which last night was originally the last night of that until she lied today), no tv, no computer, helping with chores. SD is intelligent. We do think that she has ADHD and are currently in the process of getting her tested, and I do think that her forgetfullness and impulsiveness play in to why she's lying. We just currently feel that everything we're trying has no effect. I feel a bit defeated and lost, to be honest. We're not punishing her b/c we're mean, but because we care about her and her future. We know she is better than this, and as previously stated, we are doing all we can to ensure that she doesn't end up like her sociopathic, cumpulsively lying BM.

Any suggestions/advice would be greatly appreciate. Thanks guys!