Where do I start. I have given up emotionally on wanting a relationship with my SC. Too much history and damage. My husband is critical because he is a step dad to my son and criticizes that since he "knows what it is like" because he is a step dad to my son, that he expects a lot more from me than I can do. I get things thrown in my face. Be a good mother (I am a good mother to my kids but he wants me to mother his kids) do the right thing. We are a package deal. You get out what you put into it.