DH, bless him, came to me tonight with "SS16 isn't doing as well in school as he thought. I spoke to his mother, and we're dropping the hammer. No phone except to say goodnight to his girlfriend. No going out during the week."
And then he said:
"It's my fault. You've been after me for months to follow up. You were right."

Please, for one second, pretend those three sweet words were said to you! You. Were. Right. (Enjoy that feeling fellow stalkers! Heaven knows they're rare amongst us.)

On a recent blog http://www.steptalk.org/node/213121 I wrote about my dilemma on whether to let my husband know that he and SS16 were indeed free to vacation with me and BS15 despite his and SS16's ability to screw up plans for the rest of us with their thoughtlessness.

As I am disengaged, I am not sure how to approach this one. Next week is our March break where we live. A few weeks ago I was notified that SS 16 -BM really- had booked his driver training course during March break. That was all that was shared with me. I was annoyed, that once again I hadn't been contacted about plans, but I decided that I would take BS 15 away during March break by myself anyway. My husband decided that he would stay behind with his son. (It was his choice, he felt it wouldn't be right to leave SS16 behind)

If any of you need a little encouragement:
For the sake of my marriage (and equally my sanity) I FINALLY accepted it's more important to me to be happy than be right.
So a few days ago I told my husband I'll be "checking out" of this sick relationship with his son and the Disney dad syndrome (though I said it politely, of course) and even though he asked me not to turn in my key to the bridal suite at Hotel Stepparent Horror, I stood firm.