This is my first “official” blog but I have been creeping and lurking on this site for almost a decade. 

Thank you to everyone who has taken the time to share all of your experiences in the blended family life. It allowed me to choose early on what kind of step mom I wanted to be. I chose to be my husband’s wife almost exclusively. I actually lucked out with my skids they are pretty great kids. I stepped back because their BM is/was extremely territorial from the get go. She makes the kids feel guilty for hurting her feelings and creates alternate truths. I removed myself from anything she can “see” is a direct result of my effort. While, I do help my hubby she is none the wiser and it’s for the best.

Again thank you for sharing bc otherwise I’d be in jail for putting my hands on her.