Need Advice Fast
So CPS went to BM's house today and BM put on a total act. BM acted like a completely different mom. It was aggravating. And they set up an appointment for BF and I tomorrow morning. So to the advice part, I want to know if anyone has any pointers on what to do. Should we expose BM's lies if they ask? Will they ask? What are they looking for? Will their inspection come up in court? Is it likely that they saw through BM's lies? Oh and just in case you were wondering all this CPS stuff came about because BM left SD2 in an apartment alone (what a great mom).
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Relax and be truthful.
Just be yourselves. Answer their questions truthfully... nothing to hide, nothing to fear. Express your concerns. Volunteer any info you think might be helpful. Take it easy and know that they are there to help. Try to think of it as a job interview or something like that. It's okay to feel nervous, that's expected. We went through a home study when my DH adopted my eldest child. The circumstances are very different and it's a different kind of investigation, but it was still a little nerve-wracking. I think the best way to handle it is by being yourselves and being truthful. If you have any concerns at all, bring them up. You don't have to limit yourselves to that one incident. If you see a pattern, point it out.
♥ Georgia ♥
"Good men don't just happen. They have to be created by us women." (from ROSEANNE)
Be yourself!
When DCS investigated us, they did ask for clarification on some things that BM had told them. The case worker had heard such an alternate form of reality from BM that she was shocked to hear the truth, but she also admitted that she knew that a lot of the things BM told her had to be untrue or very embellished. Remember that these people do this all day, every day...so they have an idea of the kinds of things that people say to make themselves look better or make the other parents look worse.
Basically, just answer their questions truthfully and don't make it look like you're just out to make BM look bad. They're not there to listen to mudslinging, they want to know the truth. Be very forthcoming and all in all just be yourselves!
*~So sayeth Nymh~*