So since covid has been going on, DH and BM have to do transitions at the household. Now I (SM) have been picking up my SD (age 6) from school, daycare etc. for the last 4 years. DH has been working from home now, since covid is in effect.

There has been a right of first refusal put in place for 5 hours, and we respect that. However since it's BM goal to make my life miserable, she has now randomly decided that I cannot open the door to my house to recieve SD. This is what it looked like: