Ok, SD10 and I just had a looooonnnngggggg talk. (background, when BM was here, she was CONSTANTLY telling the oldest one, now 10 that she was fat, useless, lazy, and wanted NOTHING to do with he, favoring the youngest one, now 6. in the last 2 years, BM has seen the kids a TOTAL of 5 maybe 6 times. DH and I had to go get kids from BMs house last june after fathers day, she was to have them for the summer, because she told DH "I can't afford to keep them, they're TOO expensive" so, DH and I drive 6 hours one way, as BM lives in another state, to get kids, since June of last year, she has seen the kids ONCE! Last time she saw them, she violated the parenting plan BIG TIME, and our atty has said she is to have NO contact until BM contacts atty [which she has NOT done, and had the nerve to call DH and say "why cant we work this out without the lawyers?" uh bc we tried that and you fucked it up] BM is also deaf, and ONLY uses the older one to talk to the younger one, because the youngest does not know ASL [BMs 'excuse' for her not learning? "i didnt have the money to send her to ASL classes" WTF?] and BM does NOT understand that NO CONTACT means JUST that, NONE! NADA! ZIP! ZILCH! ZERO! and got pissed because DH sent back cards that BM sent to the kids) ANYWAY, SD10 has "mommy" issues, and I can't say I blame her. SD10 is trying to understand WHY BM treats her like this, and honestly, I don't have an answer. {well, I have an answer, its just not child friendly} now for the kicker. SD10 just told me that she wants DH and I to take BM to court and "make it so she can't see us again, EVER" :jawdrop: WOW! the kid is 10, and has already come to the conclusion that BM is useless. I don't know if I am in shock, or what, but damn, I didn't start hating my mother until I was an adult