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Submitted by Snarky on Fri, 07/24/2009 - 1:32am

I am in a real pickle here and need some sound advice from any of you who may have experience this issue. DH wants to take BM to a mediator and discuss why he wants the SK's on a more even basis. Currently the SK's come over EOW and for three hours one day per week. During the summer, we get them every other week. They have expressed, strongly, that they want to switch week on and week off with mom and dad. BM tells the kids that if they do this, they can just stay over at dads (although she guilts them into thinking they don't love her if they choose this option).

BM free weekend...but will she ever really go away?

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Submitted by Snarky on Sun, 07/19/2009 - 10:05pm

No interruptions, verbiage or otherwise, regarding BM after the long discussion DH and I had on Friday about keeping her negativity out of our house. SK's mentioned BM a few times, and we were able to direct the conversation towards them in a positive way, and it worked out perfectly!

My questions are, will this woman ever move on? Will I ever really move on? Why have I let her bother me so much that it ruins my day? Wish there was a step-parenting class out there to give people the tools necessary to handle all these situations we discuss on this board.

Want to use BM for target practice!!

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Submitted by Snarky on Sat, 07/18/2009 - 9:33pm

Well, maybe not in real life......

Yesterday marked the last full week we get the SD's before school starts, and the parenting schedule resumes back to EOW and every Tuesday night. Before the kids arrived, I found myself apprehensive: I think, what crap is psycho going to spew off to DH during the pick up, and what are the kids going to tell me their psychotic white-trash mother did for them THIS time. So, to keep my sanity, I kept occupied away from home, and away from the stress.

What I love about being a stepmom.

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Submitted by Snarky on Wed, 07/15/2009 - 1:29pm

After reading a post challenging readers to think positive, I decided to do a little investigating on what I like/love most about being a stepmom; hence, I invite all of you to mention ten things that make you happy about your stepmom situation. Some days, thinking this way is impossible; however, today is a day that positivity has entered my mind (for once) and shone a ray of light on the happy times as a stepmom.
My most favorite part of being a stepmom:
1. To hear my two SD's laugh and giggle
2. Getting hugs for no reason, and maybe a peck on the cheek.

Life of a Stepmom

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Submitted by Snarky on Thu, 07/02/2009 - 1:52pm

Prior to being a stepmom, my life was pretty uncomplicated. Having a career as a nurse and volunteering in local community groups, as well as gardening were my world. Although, at the time, I was unhappily married and decided to separate. During this time I decided to further my education and start college again. Going to college was liberating! I learned a lot about myself, and how to put my needs first for a change. I then made the separation complete and moved in with a girlfriend.

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