I hate christmas even more now
Sheesh...why can't one ex at least take the high road? I really wish I could be blogging about good things in my life on this board...BF and his ex just NOW are fighting over who gets SS which christmas day...because BOTH are too immature to talk to each other without getting into a pissing match...and yes it pisses me off...cause it involves my plans that we had already made two weeks ago...so once again since she "plays dirty" he has to play dirty too...am I the only parent who has an ex that DOESN'T act all stupid and immature towards their ex? Yeah, I got screwed over the whole time I was with him, and he drank alot of my money away, but I CHOSE that route for 4 years, and now I suck it up and live with it and am civil to him and don't waste my time arguing about stuff with him cause he's my daughter's father. And believe me, I'd love to give him an earful but what good would that do? I feel like I'm in 7th grade whenever these two talk to one another. Once again, I sit and wonder if love is even worth all the bull I put up with everyday..and more and more everyday I'm ready to pack up and let his family and his ex and his spoiled son have him back the way they want it.
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I hate Christmas too
but I always have, really. Not the holiday or Jesus or anything, just that I have never had money for Christmas. I have decided that in March (after my sister's b-day so she does not cry) I am telling all my siblings and their spouses and their kids we are not exchanging gifts any more. I have to buy them 20+ gifts and now the kids are getting married and stuff so that is even more people to buy for, it is sick.
I would love to have someone like you as a BM. You do sound very mature about your ex and his role in your life now. I too am tempted to drop hubby because he is so grumpy over money issues, but somehow we have to save the SD smorgasbord. They do not help the situation.!
Most Evil
"Fortune favors the brave" - Virgil
Can you try this?
In some large families they do a gift exchange, you know, pull a name from a hat and buy for just that person. Everyone gets a gift and you only have to buy one gift.
I like that
thank you, and I think eventually we will go to that, after the kids are grown (5 years?) but please see my post below . . .
"Fortune favors the brave" - Virgil
thanks evil
I always felt like "what's the point in arguing with a guy that IO argued with all the time when I lived with him?" Now that I don't have to put up with him on a daily basis I feel blessed!
We are friendly and I still care about him, only because he's an alcoholic and I wish he'd get better for his daughter but all I can do is get along with him for her sake and let him do what he wants. He has a live in gf and what they do is their business, not mine. Really, I'm glad he found someone he can get along with..it makes my life easier! Which is why I don't understand why BM's turn into psycho 14 year olds again...are they jealous? Are they pissed cause they're not happy? I guess I just don't get it...And the more immature this woman gets, the more pissed off my BF gets and then he starts stooping to her level, which then pisses me off because I'm too old for this crap...
Friends with ex
I feel the same way. My ex and I got past all the hatred and anger in order to raise OUR child the right way. Being with someone who plays dirty and has an ex who plays the same stupid games. It makes you wonder how you and you ex could be mature enough to let go. But this person you love is being as stupid as his ex wife.
Try as you might, you cant seem to get them to realize what they are doing.Oh, I have played this game for over two years and am plain sick of it! What makes me so mad is when DH tells me that I should say something to ex when I am pissed or do this or that. My response is "why the hell would I would want to create the situation that you are in". I dont have any real advice, just moral support. I think that as stepmoms, we are always inconvenienced for the sake of the kids and the ex wife. The only solution I have found is to find someone without a history, baggage or a life. And those dont exist.
The Holidays will soon be over and we can all resume regular visitation. Until it is over, just stop and breathe. Try and have a good holiday
I was ticked
and I let him know I was...I'm so sick of the NON communication between these two...I guess it's easier for me cause I rarely talk to my ex but when we do we don't argue about our child because it's just stupid and immature. As for my BF, his ex wants control of everything and at Thanksgiving it was decided that she would take him on xmas eve and BF would take him on xmas day..well between that time I guess she decided that since she scheduled HERSELF to work on xmas eve(she has her own business) that she was going to change the arrangement without telling anyone until 2 days ago...well this pisses BF off and he's sick of her crap so he stoops to her level and puts a guilt trip on her, "his grandma is going to be heartbroken cause she won't see him on xmas" good god grandma sees him ALL the time...it's where he gets some of his "golden child" attitude. I told him to just let her have control but we won't be in town xmas eve cause we're going to see MY family that day and she would have to find daycare for him. I will not rearrange my schedule for that woman anymore. I can't wait until he lives with BM fulltime so we don't have to deal with this 50/50 bull anymore.
Attitude update
I do not mean to highjack, just want to say, there is hope.
Ok, we got together with my family last night and I found it was not so bad. We all gave very modest gifts ($5-10) that you could still use, ex. socks, or else groups gave that proportion to something bigger, ex. magazine subscription I love (Oprah - $30!).
My sister said she just likes to open gifts and let each one know she thought of them. I still am annoyed but that's how we have always done it, so I am going to think about this some more before I throw a wrench in. We cut our costs to 1/2 this year and if I plan ahead, which I never do, I may get it down even more.
My nephew is marrying a girl who has only a few family members and she said she loves that there are so many of us. It does make for some excitement and fun in a lot of ways.
I am really p.o.'d they don't help my parents more, but if I don't give as much, my resentment is a little less. It was a small Christmas breakthough.
"Fortune favors the brave" - Virgil
I HATE FESTIVALS
I HATE CHRISTMAS, NEW YEAR and ALL Festivals for that matter. Its all overrated and it is hypocritical. Damn those festivals
I hate grinch's!!
I love Xmas, i love seeing the look on the people I loves faces when they open a gift they appreciate. My DH was a Grinch this year...it pissed me off and I let him know it. the kids love it and I love it for my kids. I told him if he wants to scream Bahumbug Xmas morning...stay in bed cause I love Xmas and all you're doing is ruining the excitement for the kids!!
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oops double post..Sorry