It was BM's week so I naturally declined and explained to him that i am just the SM.

This is all part of an ongoing issue with ss9 where he no longer wants to go to BM's. I posted about it no too long ago and I told DH about you comments suggestion in regards to NOT alienating BM or enabling SS. So Sunday when he asked to stay 'just one more night' we told him no, that he needed to talk to BM about it and se has to okay it. DH asked him why he didn't want to go and he just said that he didn't know why, he just doesn't, and started to tear up.

Yesterday I went to the school as a volunteer reader, I got BM's blessing before is signed up, and ss9 is always happy to see me but on BM's weeks he gets super clingy. This time he asked me if I could pick him up after school. I said no and explained that I am just the SM, then he wanted to call her and ask. I said no she is at work we shouldn't bother her. So then he wanted to ask her that night if I could pick him up tomorrow. I just said that he needed to talk to her, adding that if BM ever needed me to pick him up then I would but she has to call me and tell me that it's okay. I didn't want him to think that we don't want him.

He also told me that he doesn't know why but he likes it better at our house.

DH doesn't know what to do about it. You hate to see him so unhappy. So DH called BM and asked to talked to Ss9. He asked him if he was okay. He said he was but just wanted to spend more time with us. BM asked what it was all about and DH told her that he wanted to go home with me today at school. She just said 'oh'. DH just wanted to make sure there isn't a serious issue going on to make ss9 not want to go there. We think it becuase BM favors Ss6 and ignores ss9.

But it was suggested by a few people that DH call ss9's therapist and talk to her about the problem. See what she think he needs to do.

I just hate to see the kid so sad.