Psychological testing - BM finally told the truth, to a point.
"You don't know what goes on at my house" that is the first honest things BM has said in years.
She finally agreed to have SS7 tested by a Psychologist for his Anxiety/Attentions/Sleep problems, in an attempt to finally figure out what exactly his problem is, now that it is affecting him at school. But she told DH that she wanted to be there when he talked to the psychologist because as she said we don't know what goes on at her house which may be part of the problem.
SS7 has been seeing a counselor since this past summer when he started having these little 'panic attacks', mostly at our house. BM claims that they never happen at her house even though she called DH one night freaked out because SS7 started crying and yelled at her for no apparent reason.
DH is worried that BM will just go in there and once again claim that she doesn't have these problems with SS7. To which I told DH that it was fine if she says that, this psychologist will either figure out that she is lying or wonder why exactly it is that we are the only ones having these issues. PASing maybe?
What BM also does not know is that after BM denied having issues to the counselor and pediatrician. DH and I took the time to video tape SS7 engaging in the 'odd' or questionable behavior(s) and gave the DVD to them, they both watched it and thought it was 'interesting'. I know video taping him was a little shady but we didn't know what else to do when BM sits there and says she doesn't notice anything like what DH and I were trying to describe.
I wish I could post the videos on here to get your take on them, it's like hand-flapping. But he runs or bounces in place and makes this weird noise that sounds like he is in pain. The look on his face is cold and distant, not like it something he enjoys. I also included videos of SS7 out to eat with is so antsy that he nearly falls out of his chair - a few times. And video from the winter school performance in which SS7 couldn't stand still or remember the lines, he was way behind all the other kids and looked half asleep.
Pediatrician wanted to test SS7 for Autism but BM refused to let DH do that. Counselor thought it was very strange but didn't really know what it was since BM claims he doesn't do it at her house. She is going to show the videos to Psychologist prior to the testing and I can't wait to see the look on BM's face when/if he says that he has seen the videos and his take on it.
Of course I am still debating on if I am going to go, I am trying to disengage to a point but at the same time I know this is really hard for DH and he may need moral support and some one to nod in agreement when she says what goes on.
Some times I do wish I knew what went on at BM's house, purely out of curiosity. I just want to know if she is as full of shit as I think she is 
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What "testing" would be done
What "testing" would be done for Autism? I have a child with Aspergers & there is no "test", the child saw a Counselor for a long time, spoke to teachers & both parents & Pediatrician & everyone else who interacts with the child (swim instructors, coaches, daycare providers) & got a "big picture" & voila, diagnosis. My children were in Counseling r/t our divorce & Dad's subsequent remarriage & divorced, get the kid counseling under that theory, if there's a problem, there will be a diagnosis.
right now it a difference of
right now it a difference of opinions. Teachers worry about his attention and him not finishing work. BM thinks he MIGHT have ADD or ADHD. DH thinks he doesn't get enough sleep or sleep well, the symptoms of sleep deprivation are the same as ADD. Doctor thinks it MIGHT be Autism which SS5 has been diagnosed with but DH doesn't like that doctor when asked questions he changes his mind a million times.
Basically no one knows so we are getting another opinion. The counselor suggested getting him tested of Psychological issues, which would narrow our scope.
I may ask the counselor, she
I may ask the counselor, she really likes me and has requested step-parent participation in the past. i think because I sort of know what SS7 is going through. I have issues with anxiety my self and I am usually the one that walks SS7 through his attacks.
We are also the only ones that take SS7 to see counselor. When we schedule the meetings on BM's weeks she always cancels them. I think the counselor kind of knows BM is full of it.
We want to help SS7 but we just need to figure out exactly what is going on in his head. Right now he is just like a ball of nerves. We don't want to medicate him but something has to give. He is at risk of failing the 2nd grade.
http://www.healthofchildren.c
http://www.healthofchildren.com/P/Psychological-Tests.html
" Psychological tests are used to assess a variety of mental abilities and attributes, including achievement and ability, personality, and neurological functioning.
For children, academic achievement, ability, and intelligence tests may be used as tools in school placement, in determining the presence of a learning disability or a developmental delay , in identifying giftedness, or in tracking intellectual development. Intelligence testing may also be used with teens and young adults to determine vocational ability (e.g., in career counseling).
Personality tests are administered for a wide variety of reasons, from diagnosing psychopathology (e.g., personality disorder, depressive disorder) to screening job candidates. They may be used in an educational setting to determine personality strengths and weaknesses."
Kids on the spectrum are
Kids on the spectrum are often diagnosed with ADD/ADHD, it was my child's first diagnosis. Every book I have read indicates this is often a first, often erroneous diagnosis. Even with that in mind, the docs who medicate Aspergers & Autism medicate symptoms, the ADD like behavior, the increased anxiety, the ODD type behaviors & ofcourse the depression these kids often experience.
Sensory Integration Disorder.
Sensory Integration Disorder. There is a very good book "The Out-of-Sync Child" which explains this.... A lot of these "conditions" overlap each other, so it can be quite difficult to pinpoint one particular condition that your SS may have. My son also used to do a lot of arm-flapping and running around and was diagnosed with a few different conditions.
Thanks. Oddly enough when it
Thanks. Oddly enough when it comes to ss7's younger brother BM is always telling people that he is 'special needs' but in some cases ss5 is actually a head of ss7, maybe because he gets help at school. It sad to say but the boy act very similar to me and its not unheard for for autism to run in families. I think whatever is going on is either genetic or environmental ( a parenting problem) or both since bot kids seem to have it. It just drives me nut the BM can see it in one but not the other. I think she is afraid to admit that there might be something wrong with BOTH of her kids.