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Submitted by SisterNeko on Fri, 10/21/2011 - 10:37am

Last night BF and I were at the table eating dinner and I totally called it that SS4 wouldn't eat. Because it was a real home cooked meal and not from a box. I can't remember what we were even talking about, it was something about the kids, but BF stated "I think that you are a better parent than me", instead of my usually 'I am not a parent at all', I just said with out hesitation "I know that I am."

I could give examples, but I won't Smile

I do let BF run the show when he is around but I make suggestions, if he doesn't follow them that is fine but if all hell breaks out later and he comes crying to me I just said, well I told you what I WOULD have done but you wanted to do it YOUR way so I am going to walk away now, have fun Smile

That is probably a little evil too.

But his whole family is raving about my parenting skills and suggestions and how it seems to be working for the kids. And that I will make a great mother some day.

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Newstep's picture

Submitted by Newstep on Fri, 10/21/2011 - 11:46am

Good for you!! My BF was like that. He had good intentions but he had no idea how to parent. BM's idea of parenting was being the BFF. The results of that lack of parenting was painfully obvious in his adult DD's.

Now that we are together SD12 will have a chance to turn out to be a productive member of society Smile Seems like a lot of people these days are not willing to put in the work it takes to be a parent.

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Submitted by harleygirl on Fri, 10/21/2011 - 11:57am

I'm the same way I offer advice and if he takes it things usually work out but if he doesn't I let him figure it out. SS never wants to eat at our house either because it's either cooked with actual seasonings or because his PITA grandmother took him for McDonalds before we picked him up. My DH has good intentions but usually feels guilty about having to be the parent because mommy dearest would rather coddle and spoil than be the tough guy so he always feels like the bad guy.

Personally I've always been mom and dad to my 3 boys so I can't really understand that thinking but it's his deal not mine. Occasionally I get fired up about things usually health related and blow my top but mostly I just shake my head Blum 3

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Submitted by Auteur on Fri, 10/21/2011 - 12:27pm

"I've always been mom and dad to my 3 boys so I can't really understand that thinking"

Exactly!! It never occurred to me that b/c I was a "single parent" that I should let my children call the shots!!!!

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Submitted by Madam Hedgehog on Fri, 10/21/2011 - 12:32pm

We deal with this whole food fiasco EVERY SINGLE DAY.

It drives me up the wall.

Way to call it. When DH sees how predictable SS's eating "woes" are, he is more likely to start doing something about and seeing past the whole guilt factor.

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Submitted by Auteur on Fri, 10/21/2011 - 12:35pm

Good luck! It took GG 5 1/2 years to see he wasn't doing his kids any favours by letting them eat all McDonalds and junk food and special "kid friendly" meals (Kids Kuisine, boxed mac and cheese, doritos, hot dogs with no grill marks, oreos, you get the picture)

By then it was too late and they "opted" out of visitation over homecooked meals. The Behemoth eats out at fast food places probably 5 times a week. The rest comes from boxed, frozen or chain restaurants. And she's supposedly a CATERER with her mother on the side AND a CPS worker by day!!!

F'n UnREAL

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Submitted by SisterNeko on Mon, 10/24/2011 - 4:04pm

I did offer BF a suggestion to the boys poor eating habits this weekend.

http://www.carnationbreakfastessentials.com/Public/Default.aspx

I used to drink this stuff in college when I never had time to eat dinner. It looks and tastes like Chocolate milk, which the kids LOVE. This weekend we started giving it to them once a day with a meal (lunch of dinner) and SS4 seems to be responding well - BF was concerned after he hadn't gone #2 all week. Well after drink that he went Fri and Sat in a big way. lol

since it seems to be working I thought I should share. Seems to be a lot of picky eaters out there.

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Submitted by Doubletakex3 on Mon, 10/24/2011 - 4:26pm

Good idea. I had a doctor advise this as a meal substitute when I was nursing my grandmother and she couldn't eat solid foods. Ensure is good too and has different flavors.