It's the little things that add up for our BM in the money department - yeah we live within our means. Sadly i knew what was going to happen because BM did it to FDH when they were married. She started a new full-time job and is supposedly making more that she was last year, her hubby works with FDH and makes less than FDH does. I feel bad for her hubby because she has started to sell off this things because 'they need the money'. He told FDH that she sold his snowmobile, but they never used it any way. And SS6 asked me the other day what WE were going to sell because he though WE needed money. I told him that we weren't selling anything and we had money.

And looking at her you really wouldn't think that she 'spoils' herself but she nickle a dimes herself to death. Her van is junk and her house is small.

These are what screw her and her hubby with money - IMO.

She likes to move every 2 years (or so) so she has no equity in her house.
She buys over prices used cars that need work.
She feeds the kids fast food 3 to 4 times a week - that adds up.
She orders stuff out of EVERY book order the school sends home.
She buy SS6 a new (or used) video game at least once a month or rents them.
She frequently colors her hair.
She wears a gallon of make-up every day.
Tons of new clothes for her of course.

And sadly when ever the boys need something she goes out and buys it and then whines to use that she had to get them something, but she never tells us until she does it and when we do notice something and get it, she sends it back to our house and buys them another one. Like SS4 needed a new coat so we got him one and sent it to her house, the next week she sent him over with another (new) coat and our coat in a bag.