At work we have two men who were completely blindsided - or so they say - by being served divorce papers. It seems here too some of the DHs are shocked when their significant other has a foot and a half out the door. I couldn't help but wonder why this is? I've had several girlfriends divorce - they all knew it coming, "been waiting for years". Do we as women communicate that poorly? Is that why some of us have trouble getting the changes we want in our homes?