My husband and his ex were "divorced" but still living together as a family when we met. I was not clear on the arrangement until a few weeks after we met and started dating. His excuse for this behavior was that he didn't want to leave the house as it would affect custody or his ownership in the house if he were the one to go first... BUT they were ALREADY DIVORCED. Papers signed. After a little pushing on my end, the house was sold and he moved out.