Most of the time.
This is not a rant I am not looking for advice. I am just rambling some things I need to get out.
Most of the time I feel like a terrible parent.
I seem to get all the attitude and blame, I try my best everyday and get scorn and dislike because I enforce rules that were set up with my SD knowlege and consent.
Most of the time I am the parent that cares, works on school projects with my SD, and plays with her, provides her needs and tries to fulfill her wants. But I still get all the attitude and I still get treated like I am not worthy of respect. When she says " I love you" I get confused because between what she says and how she acts there is some kind of miscommunication.
Most of the time I put in maximum effort and recive minimum results.
Most of the time I try to talk to my therapist and talk it all out. Most of the time I remind myself she is a child and it's part of my responsibility as a parent to show her the way. Most of the time I get rejected.
Even though I was the person who dried her tears and interfered when her bio mom would cause her pain. I'm talked about badly.
Most of the time I get reminded I'm not her first mom ( what she calls Bio mom)
Most of the time I get fought on every little thing.
Most of the time I just keep keeping on.
But sometimes I wanna cry, sometimes I want to rage and sometimes I want to give up.
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It sounds like you do a lot
It sounds like you do a lot for your SD and I can sense that you care about her.
Not a single mention of dad, however. What does he do for his kid and how does he support your role in her life?
Husband does.
Husband is understanding for the most part. He thinks I should disengage more and just accept that she is going to give me attitude regaurdless of how much I try or what I do. Unless it's something she in fact wants or feels she's entitled to. Husband tries to step up with her and we are a united front when it comes to parenting her. But he lacks any kind of bond with her. He has little in common with her, and he struggles to find things to do with her, or even talk to her about.
Not a united front if he lets
Not a united front if he lets her disrespect you. Does she do this with him? Good luck, and hopefully you will read more about disengagement.
She doesn't do it when he is around.
My SD doesn't do half of the disrespectful stuff she does when he's around she sometimes mouths off to him. Blames him for her mom leaving even though she knows it wasn't because of him. It was her bios choice. She gets grounded when she's disrespectful and she looses a privlige.