I feel really bad that I don’t seem to get along with my ss. We don't hate each other but have not warmed to each other since I met my partner 2 years ago. I think the main problem is how his bm is bringing him up. Although he is tall for his age (11) he is also about 2 stone overweight - his bm doesn’t encourage him to eat healthily or exercise (she and her partner are overweight too) and my partner struggles to undo all her bad work with only one day a week. He is a very quiet child and I am lucky he is not rude or obnoxious.