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O/T Supervisor keeps usurping tasks

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Submitted by shellpell on Mon, 11/29/2021 - 1:09pm

Hello, this is mostly a vent, but if anyone has any contructive ideas, I'm willing to hear them! So I've been contracting with the company for five years now in a creative position. It started off very small (five people) and has grown to almost 200 people. I was in department A under a supervisor who was very clear with directions and feedback. Just how I liked it. Give me a task, tell me what you want, I'll do it, if it's not what you had in mind, tell me and I'll change it.

DH finally saw SS

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Submitted by shellpell on Mon, 07/27/2020 - 12:38pm

So after BM canceled SS12's spring break and summer visitations due to fear of COVID, DH decided to go out and do a 5-day visit out to BM/SS land and stay at a hotel to visit SS. Not sure why it was safer for DH to visit than the other way around, but that was BM's logic. She wasn't going to put SS on a plane. DH came back just disappointed with the trip. He said SS was surly, disinterested in anything and didn't seem to care that he was there. He felt disconnected and said that SS had a bad attitude the entire time, no matter what they were doing.

Calling out vs ghosting

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Submitted by shellpell on Fri, 07/17/2020 - 9:21am

Here's a question; When do you decide to cut ppl off vs calling them out? I've gotten advice not to call out my in-laws, for example, but it's so hard to "let things go" instead of telling  ppl that they're doing something hurtful or shitty. I guess it has to do with the desired effect, right? What if it's BM or skids?

In-laws wish me happy birthday but not condolences

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Submitted by shellpell on Wed, 07/15/2020 - 1:52pm

My mother passed away about a year and a half ago and I heard crickets from the in-laws. But they always make sure to send a birthday card or a birthday message on my birthday. WTF? I think telling someone I'm sorry for your loss for something as devastating as a parent's death is more meaningful than an obligatory birthday greeting. Just typing my thoughts out loud. I feel like messaging back, "Puzzled as to why I get birthday greetings but not one word of condolences after my mother's death." I don't think I should, but again, WTF? 

How do you keep privacy w smart phones?

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Submitted by shellpell on Fri, 09/06/2019 - 3:36pm

How do you all maintain privacy of your home and children from BM if your skid has a smart phone with camera? SS is 11 so I'm sure soon he'll be asking to bring a phone on next visit. (So far, DH has said no to bringing electronics to our house). I DO NOT want pix of my house or kids texted to BM. Our current set up for visitation communication with BM (since we are long distance) is that SS Facetimes with her several times a week in his room with door closed.

What do you with teen skids do regarding phones? Outright ban? Or no privacy?

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Stress from skid resulting in physical symptoms

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Submitted by shellpell on Wed, 08/14/2019 - 5:00pm

Does anyone have this problem? SS11 has been here for almost a month and he's same old skid- sulky, unfriendly, rude and selfish. He has maybe said 30 words to me the entire time he's been here. I am basically disengaged, but just his negative black cloud presence has resulted in horrible cluster headaches that started not too long after he arrived, insomnia, and general lack of well-being. I know that some of it is anxiety due to my being an introvert, so anyone other than my DH and two kids in the house for long periods is stressful, but some of it is because he is who he is.