Situation Starting to Get Worse!
I am starting to get fed up with the oldest SS12, Not sure how to be supportive for FH. Again SS lies to FH telling him that his homework is done, just so he could go to his friends house. SS pulls out his home work at 6:30pm Sunday evening right before dinner. FH says nothing but I know that he is mad. I ask FH what he was going to do since this was the 3rd time this has happened. FH said that we would talk about it later and he didn’t want to deal with it now. 10 mins later FH talked to SS, hugs kisses and back to normal as though it never happened, same routine as that last times. I don’t’ get why FH can’t see that SS know how to play him. My suggestion before this conversation was taking the cell phone away, Xbox, something so that SS wouldn’t think this would be ok again……. But No!
SS’s attitude this past weekend sucked big time, we offered shoes, he didn’t want them because they were not name brand, he wanted a pellet gun and was told no and proceeded to sulk the reminder of the day. The boys were left with me that afternoon while FH went to work, I was suppose to drop the SS’s (12,9 ) off at the friends house, and snoozed a lil (being 6months along is draining) anyhow I woke up to SS12 busting through the door saying “My Dad said to wake you up so you can take us to my friends house”. I was livid. I called FH and yes he had asked him to wake me up nicely but that didn’t happen. FH and I have been at it about him for the past few weeks and SS12 is getting worse, I am at my wits end.
FH says I need to be more supportive of him, but honestly I don’t think that is going to do any good until SS12 attitude and behavior is dealt with first. I don’t know how do be anymore supportive if my suggestions are going to be disregarded.
- Shell8078's blog
- Log in or register to post comments
Comments
You poor thing, it's
You poor thing, it's completely a case of responsibility with no authority by the sound of it. Your FH should realise that you can't support him if he's not firm and gives you something to support. What exactly does he expect you to do to be 'more supportive'?
I think some people will suggest disengaging, but not having had to do that myself I'm wary about recommending it. All I can suggest is talking to your FH again when the skids aren't around, perhaps make yourself some notes first about the points you want to make so you don't get sidetracked by whatever he's saying.
Thanks for the comment, I
Thanks for the comment, I don't know what more to do than start be vocal towards SS12. FH does say that I should treat them as my own and if my daughters ever did something like they know that Consequences will follow. FH and I talked about it last night and I told him that he has one more chance to straighten this kid up or else I will deal with it.
Again SS lies to FH telling
Again SS lies to FH telling him that his homework is done, just so he could go to his friends house. SS pulls out his home work at 6:30pm Sunday evening right before dinner
---------------> Why doesn't your FH make sure that SS's homework is complete when SS says he is finished with it instead of trusting that he's done it?
When the kids get off the bus at our home, we have them sit down immediately and start on their homework, the homework that needs to be done is written in their agendas. Once they finish, we look thru it to make sure that everything in the agenda has been completed, and we also go over it to make sure that it is correct.
Of course children are going to take advantage of ANY situation where the parent starts to slack off in. I guarantee you if I just took my kids word that they had completed their homework and didn't take the time to check as soon as they finished, they would take advantage of that and know that they can get away with not doing it.
___________________________________________________________________________
“Unless commitment is made, there are only promises and hopes; but no plans.”
I totally agree MM! When
I totally agree MM! When the kids (any kids) get home from school (even on a Friday) homework should come FIRST. Then they can enjoy the rest of their weekend without worrying about it. Business before pleasure.
That is the way it is with
That is the way it is with my girls everything must be finished and reviewed before we do anything. The girls know the rules,but it is hard to get the boys on the say page that is the challenges that I am facing, It seems to mainly happen with weekend homework. Too many chance are give by FH, and I have told him to check, a calender but SS12 doesn't keep one for all his classes.
sorry,it's not going to
sorry,it's not going to change.Been dealing with the same thing for year's.
I know how you feel. My 10
I know how you feel. My 10 yr old SS has been getting into trouble at school a lot lately because his homework isn't done. So now he has to do it before he gets to do anything fun. We made an agreement with his teacher that he writes ss's homework in his agenda every day and we double check that he has the necessary books with him to do his homework. We do this check before leaving the school. Business before pleasure, same rule applies. Homework, then fun.