My sister in laws (plus SD14) are some of the the biggest jerks ever. My DHs birthday was this weekend and SD14, BM and SIL ignored him and didn't return any calls this week. They had organized for SD14 to come to her cousins' birthday and DH was not a part of the planning dispite being her father and it being his birthday weekend.

Once SIL picked up SD14 she FaceTimed with him to show that she got SD and they were SOOOO excited to see him at the cousins joint birthday party tomorrow (the birthdays were 2 weeks before and 2 weeks after but the party was on DHs birthday weekend.) This put DH in a sour mood, if she was so excited to see him why doesn't she answer the phone? It's all a performance. While at the party SD avoided DH like the plague. Of course everyone in DHs family said he was the one ignoring her and giving him crap about it. 

SD kept wanting to hold my baby but kept disappearing every time she had her. That didn't sit right with me so I took her back each time. To be perfectly honest I was happy she left my toddler alone. 

 SD wouldn't even talk to DH. He's an adult so birthdays aren't super important but they didn't acknowledge and he was a bit annoyed with it on top of her bad behavior. As predicted SD didn't have any gifts for the cousins or her dad. I tried to coordinate to get her the day before so we could have some time with her alone and get gifts but it was ignored. 

 I took him to a few brew houses the day after which helped his mood.  That was until SIL FaceTimed to say they were going pumpkin picking for his birthday and he needed to meet them, at the last minute, in the opposite direction and they were leaving now so he better hurry. Um, what a nice surprise to remember to include him at the last minute on your social media photo op excursion... 

One more thing, the party was for a 2 and 4 year old and all the games were for little kids. SD14 hung out with the teens and young adults until it was game time then showed up to win the games. All the other teens understood to leave the little kids to their games but no one told her not to play or to let a kid win, she just wanted the prizes and then would go back to playing on TikTok with a smug look while the little kids cried and they hosts looked for alternative prizes to play the game again, without a teenage ringer. I swear SD14 is untouchable, someone should have said something. My DH was useless here because it was one of the few times SD14 actually talked to him, to brag about winning. There were games/puzzles for the teens and adults too and they all just let SD win so she cleaned up on all the prizes. 

This isn't an adults vs kid thing, at the party (where they ignored his birthday) They were planning what to do for MILs birthday next month. 

BM, SILs and SD all won't talk to him. I asked if he wanted to go to court to do something about this and he said why waste the money. I know he's tired of BM plus most of his family piling on the alienation but he's right, what would a court really be able to do about this if he did want to spend the money? He decided the best course of action is to continue reaching out to SD even if it's mostly ignored and to limit contact with his family.

Our DDs birthday party is in a few weeks, SD told us she would come but as with this past weekend won't talk to us about planning how she will get there. I expect it to go the same and she will turn up like my SILs shadow. 

So what activities would be fun at a party for little kids? I have some crafty things planned but I'm definitely not doing any competitive games where SD14 is just going to mow over the little kids to win. Bubbles, slime, painting on little canvas boards... Hmmm what else can I do?