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SO picked them up from school when it was over for the day. According to the kids they were planning on taking the bus home to his house despite BM ordering them to take it to her house. It does appear that even the kids realise that BM is not acting in an appropriate manner. Currently we are all at my house, gives the kids and SO a breather as BM can't get past the gate, however they have to go home eventually and I am afraid that won't be so peaceful. I, myself am also worried about her trying to take the kids from school herself tomorrow.

Attorney filed the contempt paperwork today. He also had one of his secretaries hand carry the CS order to BM's payroll department to ensure it went into effect as soon as possible. BM is likely burning up SO's phone still, he powered it off about an hour ago after she had called 12 times in a row back to back, never left a message, just incessant ringing.

SO's attorney also sent a letter to BM's attorney (faxed) with copies of the CO, the letters from the schools and all the case numbers from HCSO. Perhaps her attorney can get her to see the light of reality.

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Good job and kudos to the

Good job and kudos to the kids for being able to see through the bs.

SO's attorney also sent a

That totally depends on her current level of crazy . . . so, I wouldn't hold my breath if I were you. FDH's attorney calls and faxes BM's attorney *at least* once every other week. It never does any good; BM's attorney will say he'll talk to her about it, and nothing ever comes of it.

Maybe they need to move to a

Maybe they need to move to a gated community too. She sounds like a real whakadoo.

He can't afford to right now.

He can't afford to right now. Unemployment does not pay enough, though the good news is he has two interviews later this week! I am hoping for his sake one of them pans out.

He moves June 1 from his rental home to a new apartment complex that is 'gated'. Key card to get in or a resident has to admit you using the call box. However the only thing really keeping anyone out is a breakaway traffic arm that goes up and down, those are relatively easy to get around unfortunately.

Im so glad that this is the

Im so glad that this is the way it worked out.....Did your attorney think that you could call CPI and get the children to tell them what is going on? And maybe CPI could remove the kids until all of this is settled and BM gets an evaluation....I really really worry about the kids...I fear they are in danger....Do the kids feel safe? They have some deep fealings about what is going on with the BM...the kids have gone to the school and asked for help and they also PLANNED to go to BD's house AT ALL COST!! This should ring the alarm bells!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! They wanted out!! They are in a bad situation....Kids this age often feel like they need to "protect" the injured party....they are really showing that they do not want to be in the home with BM...THIS SCARES ME!!

Please "listen" to what these kids are saying to you and to BF...They are screaming all kinds of things by their ACTIONS (going to the school/escape plan to BD's/telling what is happening)...Their ACTIONS are SCREAMING "HELP US"!!!!!!!!!! Please encourage BF to LISTEN and ACT!! Please...Now the BM KNOWS that her kids have "turned against her" and I fear that BM's actions/reactions will be bad.....Your BF has real reason to not place these kids back in the home of an angry possibly psychotic woman.....BF needs to protect his children...call your attorney and get his input NOW...and CPI...The BM seems to be going to all lengths to "hurt" BD by restricting her kids contact with threats of punishment...What is next with her??
Sorry to sound negative....just a very bad vibe from this BM

You are not the only one

You are not the only one getting a bad vibe, the school is as well. The problem is nothing she has done can technically be considered neglect or abuse of the kids. GC at the school yesterday suggested getting our attorney to request a Guardian Ad Litum for the kids. SO plans on talking to the attorney about it. The kids are just over the drama, BM of course had a lot of derogitory things to say about SO to the kids, specifically about the child support issue. None of it did they want to hear but they got to hear it non stop for the entire week they were with her.

So while BM is breaking violating the CO and being a texting/calling p.i.t.a, technically DCFS will not get involved unless there is suspicion or proof of neglect/ abuse. Our biggest hope seems to be her attorney getting through to her. From what the kids have told the GC at their school, BM seems to be of the opinion the kids are 'hers' and SO is dependant on her being in a good mood to see them. That their 'agreement' was if she let him have them 50% of the time he would pay CS. Since he can't pay CS and she 'refuses' to give him her hard earned money, then their agreement is null and void and he just can't have them 50% of the time anymore. In effect, she seems to think he has to rent the kids from her.

She has a nasty lesson in legal reality coming. CO is totally different than CS, while one is contingent on the other she can not just arbitrarily decide to modify either without court involvement.

It sounds as if things are

It sounds as if things are begining to move.

I hope it works out the way your, SO and the Skids hope and in their best interests.

Bestr regards,

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