Oh no no no no no, there is no way in hell that b**** would get away with saying anything to or involving any of MY children in any of her crazy BS!! I would have pressed charges against her and I would tell my DH that he needs to step in and discipline his daughter and have a nice long talk with her about how to treat and behave towards my child or else I would be gone!! This has infuriated me to no end and I do not even have children of my own yet.

Inside every cynical person, there is a disappointed idealist. - George Carlin

i would FLIP!! what is your DH doing about all this???

"Given the right reasons and the right two people, marriage is a wonderful way of experiencing your life."
~the late great George Carlin

& I will tell you with all sincerity what I would do (me and only me). Because I feel that my main purpose in life once my children were born was no longer my personal life, but to raise, nurture and protect my children ---- I would not have ANYTHING TO DO with people like that. I would take my child AND LEAVE. EVEN IF I HAD TO LIVE CELIBATE ON A DESERT ISLAND and eat grass. But that is just me.

needs to put BOTH his exwife AND his daughter in their respective places. first of all, that is NOT acceptabel behavior for the BM to talk about your child like that, LET ALONE get into a fight w u and have DH sit there and do nothing??? if he cant stand up to her where does that leave u??

u should press charges against BM for slander and defamation of character. as for the SD, well kids will be kids and do stuff like this and u cant change what BM does BUT it is ur DHs responsibility to talk to SD and tell her that kind of behavior is NOT acceptable and she CANT be talking about y'all like that. no offense, but why the hell is he letting this crazy stuff slide???

"Given the right reasons and the right two people, marriage is a wonderful way of experiencing your life."
~the late great George Carlin

My skids' BM isn't that stupid...and definitely not that brave.

There actually is a line that can not be crossed. My kids get the ripple effect of BM when our whole house is disrupted by her. But to have her come up to my babies and call me a slut. Them are fightin' words. She'd feel dumb too. Having her skinny butt kicked by an 8 and 12 year old. How embarassing.

"For every ailment under the sun....There is a remedy, or there is none;
If there be one, try to find it; If there be none, never mind it." ~ W.W. Bartley

Ummm. I too was physically assaulted by the bm in front of her children, new dh and my dh. This was 1 week prior to my 1 yr wedding anniversary. She apologized to the skids, her dh and my dh. NEVER to me.. the person ACTUALLY assaulted.

As far as her talking to your child, in any manner other than friendly and kindly as ANY adult should do in front of a child, I would have gone BALISTIC! I dont even have words to describe this.

Recently bm told me that I do not matter and as far as she is concerned I dont exist. My feelings will NEVER be considered and I was nothing. I can only imagine if I ever have children what she will say about them.

You are not alone. OH.. and I told my dh, as I did not fight back out of respect for the children in the room, that the next time she laid even a finger on me, I would call the cops and press charges.. I would also defend myself the next time around.

How often to you have SD? Your BS needs to be AWAY from her as much as possible!

You guys please help I don't know what to do. I have had many arguments with my FH about his ex and things have been great the past few mths since he supposedly set boundaries back in March. Well I have today off and got on the computer and his cell phone bill from last night was still up and I opened it because he told me he got his parents a phone a few mths back so I figured (really that is all i was looking for) I should write down the number since he has all my families phone numbers and I have none of his. Well he has a line for himself, a line for SD16, one for his parents, and one for the BM - I called the number and yes it is her (got VM). I am so furious right now - that was not on there a year ago. I'm so pissed because he is such a liar!!!! I seriously am ready to give him his ring back - the BM makes perfectly good money why would he pay for her after all the trouble she has caused btwn us - he would turn around and by the cow a phone??? I am shaking and crying right now because i want to slap the hell out of him. I do not know what to do or how to confront him on this please help - I look forward to hearing from you all. I don't even know how I can even have him TOUCH me when he gets home from work later. Also - he has her as an "account manager" on his account!!!!!

I would love to say that I would have behaved like a mature responsible adult, but I know that I would have knocked her block off. I know how protective I am over my family and if/when I have kids I'm sure that will kick in to the umpteenth degree. All bets are off if you mess with my kid - you will go down!!

Inside every cynical person, there is a disappointed idealist. - George Carlin

Get OUT OF THERE with my BS while she's there. No trust!

Well heres one for ya.....

I have a 7 (almost year old SD and my son is 10 (almost 11). BM coached my SD to lie and tell the police that my son touched her inappropriately.

SD had to go see a forensic psychologist whom along with CPS determinded that SD was coached. You see BM is really stupid, and instead of having SD say something that is half believable she actually coached her to say:
"he rubbed my vagina in a circular motion"

SICK!!! Whats worse is that my son couldn't be anywhere near my skids while this was investigated and even now that it has been closed out, BM is STILL trying to get something against my son in family court.
I don't know what to do about it. Everyone says I should press charges against her for false reporting but thats just not how it works.... I can't arrest her and I can't press charges against her, the only person that can charge anyone is the prosecutor and in order to bring forth charges he would have to prove that BM (and not her mother or sister) is the one that coached SD and I can guarantee that BM would have no problem throwing SD under the bus and stating that SD must have made the lie up all by herself.

Luckily though this may just come back to bite BM. You see, BM got married and then divorced within 5 months and her ex has contacted us with all sorts of interesting information, including the fact that SD told him personally that my son never touched her.... BM knows this too but is still lying about it.

This whole thing is just so sick and I'm getting so tired of it.

Your poor, poor son.

With a BB like yours to deal with, I'd be looking for a hitman! What she's trying to do to your son is absolutely unforgivable.

is the kind of stuff these BMs will burn in hell for, Conflicted, Frustrated AND sam!! These actions are just sick and I commend you all for not beating anyone to a pulp under these circumstances!

And for all of you, the BM was trying to hurt you and make you look bad, but only succeeds in making a jackass of herself, in front of her own kids-!! so it is NO reflection on any of you or the son accused!

"A lie told often enough becomes the truth." - Vladimir Lenin

I'd love to throw down on her. After the past four years of crap I've been through with her, it would be nice to just let it all out.

She'd never do that, though. Even six months pregnant I could still kick her butt

*~So sayeth Nymh~*