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Debit card for SD

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Submitted by RoseCandy on Tue, 02/22/2022 - 1:42pm

Does any else's stepkids have one of those teen debit cards? BM got one for SD14 and both she and SD have asked DH 3 times in the last week to add money to it. They haven't talked at all about a regular allowance or schedule, it seems to be that if SD wants money she asks and gets it. I hope DH will reach his limit. He says no when BM wants money but not when SD asks!

These are good for teaching financial responsibility but BM won't give DH the login info and if DH just sends SD $50 every other day whenever she wants it's going to teach SD nothing. 

What's the most absurd advice you've gotten as a stepparent?

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Submitted by RoseCandy on Mon, 02/14/2022 - 9:22am

I swear over the years I have gotten some of the most horrible and contradictory advice on how to be a stepmom. The worst advice always seems to come from DHs mother or unsolicited from other people.

 

When we were just dating people told me to take it slow and let her have plenty of time with her dad. Well my then boyfriend was super excited for her to meet me and he wanted us to get along right away. Maybe he was the one who needed this go slow advice! After all if he had SD and wanted to see me, saying no would have made SD think I was cold and uninterested.

 

SD and her flying monkeys

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Submitted by RoseCandy on Tue, 02/08/2022 - 7:43pm

Hello I'm a new user but a long time reader. I can't stand my stepdaughter but in real life I feel like I have to smile and pretend every is perfect.

I wish I never had to see her again. I am not looking forward to the day my kids are older and want a relationship with her. She's either going to blow them off or be a horrible influence.